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Why Being Smart Won't Get You Laid

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Re: Why Being Smart Won't Get You Laid

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Fair enough, but don't let the unscrupulous part be a story you tell yourself to justify why you've never figured out how to get laid.

Um...here's hoping that an insightful comment on the topic of geeks getting laid doesn't necessarily imply that I don't. Hope you got your giggles though.

Of course I can't speak to you personally, but I've definitely seen cases of exactly what I described. It wasn't a joke.

Re: Why Being Smart Won't Get You Laid

#33
Woman did not evolve to find smart guys or "nice" guys attractive. Woman are programmed to find the leader of the pack attractive, even if said leader is an ahole. Fortunately, most well raised woman were taught with their rational minds to be wary of the jerk and to go for the gentleman. So rationally they want the nice guy, but the animal mind wants the leader of the pack. This creates conflict. If you've ever been in a situation where you've had a close female friend tell you - "you're a nice guy, but I'm sorry, I'm just attracted to you. I really wish I was, but I'm not" - you know what I mean.

The answer is not to become to an asshole, but you should cultivate an air of being more like a leader of the pack. Note you do not have to actually be a leader of a group of guys to do this. It's just about sending the right signals to the female's animal mind.

Things you can do to give that impression are: be confident when approaching girls, do not be needy or give off signs of desperation, tease her, be interesting, give off a sense of bemused indifference, don't act like your trying too hard, do not be afraid to touch her on the arm or shoulder, flirt with her friends, etc. I learned this stuff through experience and friends, but there are sources on the internet that can greatly speed up the process. You can read the archives of Roissy's blog, but be warned, it's very not PC - http://roissy.wordpress.com/

Re: Why Being Smart Won't Get You Laid

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simply earn a ton of money, and your prospects to get laid will suddenly increase

That's a loser's game. Sure, a ton of money will get you laid... with precisely the kind of women one should avoid in the first place. Money does not increase one's attractiveness per se , it only attracts scavengers commonly known as gold-diggers. Better use the money to improve oneself...

This is why start-ups are so exceptionally cool. Get your SO when you're poor, so you know they love you for you. Then hit it big and be rich without a gold digger.

(Details left blank as an excercise for the reader, BTW. ;-))

Re: Why Being Smart Won't Get You Laid

#35

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Um...here's hoping that an insightful comment on the topic of geeks getting laid doesn't necessarily imply that I don't. Hope you got your giggles though.

Of course I can't speak to you personally, but I've definitely seen cases of exactly what I described. It wasn't a joke.

Notice I said "quite a bit," not "when appropriate."

Re: Why Being Smart Won't Get You Laid

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simply earn a ton of money, and your prospects to get laid will suddenly increase

That's a loser's game. Sure, a ton of money will get you laid... with precisely the kind of women one should avoid in the first place. Money does not increase one's attractiveness per se , it only attracts scavengers commonly known as gold-diggers. Better use the money to improve oneself...

who said anything about relationships? this is only about getting laid.

And if you are loaded and want to avoid gold diggers, nothing is stopping you from going 007 on it, rent an apartment, buy a beater, and pretend to be broke

Re: Why Being Smart Won't Get You Laid

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

That's a loser's game. Sure, a ton of money will get you laid... with precisely the kind of women one should avoid in the first place. Money does not increase one's attractiveness per se , it only attracts scavengers commonly known as gold-diggers. Better use the money to improve oneself...

who said anything about relationships? this is only about getting laid. And if you are loaded and want to avoid gold diggers, nothing is stopping you from going 007 on it, rent an apartment, buy a beater, and pretend to be broke

Or just live in a comfortable place, drive a decent car... live like a normal person...

Re: Why Being Smart Won't Get You Laid

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simply earn a ton of money, and your prospects to get laid will suddenly increase

Alas, being smart doesn't ensure wealth, either.

I would have to agree with this. Being smart does not guarantee wealth. There are a lot bright people who got good grades in HighSchool, finished college, etc. This is because they have to -- get good grades. But after graduation, it becomes an entirely different story. It takes more than brains to get rich. Opportunity, guts, risk-taking are just some of the factors... Just my two-cents...

Re: Why Being Smart Won't Get You Laid

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Being smart got me a well paying job. For about 3 hours of work I can make it happen + tips. But seriously, I'm not willing to "get some" because it requires me to do things I don't want or willing to. It's sort of like PG's essay on popularity.

> But seriously, I'm not willing to "get some" because it requires me to do things I don't want or willing to.

What are the things that you don't want to do or are unwilling to do that you think would get you laid?

Re: Why Being Smart Won't Get You Laid

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simply earn a ton of money, and your prospects to get laid will suddenly increase

I'm surprised this comment has so many up votes. Money helps a bit, but trying to earn more money just to get laid is ridiculous. There are many easy and fun techniques that are far more effective. Examples: carry yourself with confidence, be social, cultivate an aura of mystery an allure, do interesting things, become a better conversationalist, be fearless in approaching girls, practice speaking to random girls and…

don't forget to workout, being in shape will pretty much cover a lot of those things
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