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Why Being Smart Won't Get You Laid

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Re: Why Being Smart Won't Get You Laid

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Post by bokonist »

vaksel wrote: post #4

simply earn a ton of money, and your prospects to get laid will suddenly increase

I'm surprised this comment has so many up votes. Money helps a bit, but trying to earn more money just to get laid is ridiculous. There are many easy and fun techniques that are far more effective. Examples: carry yourself with confidence, be social, cultivate an aura of mystery an allure, do interesting things, become a better conversationalist, be fearless in approaching girls, practice speaking to random girls and trying to entertain them, etc, etc.

Re: Why Being Smart Won't Get You Laid

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Post by sown »

Being smart got me a well paying job.

For about 3 hours of work I can make it happen + tips.

But seriously, I'm not willing to "get some" because it requires me to do things I don't want or willing to. It's sort of like PG's essay on popularity.

Re: Why Being Smart Won't Get You Laid

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Post by jkkramer »

All you really need to get laid is a willingness to eat humble pie while you climb the social learning curve.

It's simple: smile, make eye contact, show interest, ask questions. You will probably feel like an idiot. Repeat until confidence outweighs fear. If you're smart, use your brain for wit, not for showing off.

Re: Why Being Smart Won't Get You Laid

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Post by chris11 »

sachinag wrote: post #8

Frankly, there's an opportunity here: make a dating site just for smart people. Don't just ask about people's alma mater, ask for their GPA and major. Don't just let people say what they do, ask what their employer and title is. Ask for SAT, GRE, GMAT, LSAT, whatever other scores. Then let your users screen on the stuff that they use as a proxy for smart. We all have different definitions for smart; just try to accom…

There are already service that somewhat meet those needs. Eg: http://www.rightstuffdating.com/. This site limits members to specific schools. Not all of the accepted schools are ivy league quality, and you could probably get in from a school not on the list. But the service is being advertised as for single adults from elite universities. There are other similar dating services.

Plus there is always Mensa and other high-iq societies. People have said that Mensa has just turned into a club to find people to date. Here's Kathleen O's experience with using Mensa for dating:http://www.yelp.com/topic/chicago-a-speed-dating-service-lik...

Re: Why Being Smart Won't Get You Laid

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Post by erlanger »

dasil003 wrote: post #19
erlanger wrote: post #2

Being smart, pragmatic, and unscrupulous will get you laid quite a bit. I can't, and don't want to, figure out the last part.

Fair enough, but don't let the unscrupulous part be a story you tell yourself to justify why you've never figured out how to get laid.

Um...here's hoping that an insightful comment on the topic of geeks getting laid doesn't necessarily imply that I don't. Hope you got your giggles though.

Re: Why Being Smart Won't Get You Laid

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Post by sown »

jkkramer wrote: post #24

All you really need to get laid is a willingness to eat humble pie while you climb the social learning curve. It's simple: smile, make eye contact, show interest, ask questions. You will probably feel like an idiot. Repeat until confidence outweighs fear. If you're smart, use your brain for wit, not for showing off.

Also, I need to lose about a hundred pounds and do something about my jebediah beard.
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