Ineligible Bachelors: Indian Men Living in U.S. Strike Out

Post by jibiki » Mon, Apr 06, 2009, 6:37 AM UTC

blizkreeg wrote: post #27

jibiki wrote: post #23

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> Frankly, if you haven't been born and/or brought up in a certain culture, you simply will not be able to understand some peculiar aspects about it. A true statement, but not necessarily relevant. For instance, I cannot understand Aztec culture, because I have not experienced it. I condemn it nonetheless.

Your condemnation does not really have any place in the scheme of things, history, or a bearing on that culture for that matter. I'm not trying to be harsh here. I hope you understand my fundamental point. A culture is a culture, it's a consequence of history, time, and innumerable subtle things and relationships. Just as the American culture is, many aspects of which people outside America condemn. But it doesn't ma…

Post by falsestprophet » Mon, Apr 06, 2009, 6:44 AM UTC

plinkplonk wrote: post #19

A more sensible interpretation is that marriage and courtship rituals ("courtship" extended to include "casual" relationships) have a heavy culture specific component to them. I had a Canadian manager (tall handsome intelligent guy) who tried applying his knowledge of how "dating" worked when he was posted to Bangalore for a year and "struck out" all the time until one day, at a party, he got drunk and asked me "Dude…

Post by blizkreeg » Mon, Apr 06, 2009, 6:48 AM UTC

jibiki wrote: post #34

blizkreeg wrote: post #32

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The concept and system of arranged marriages is not something that needs fixing. It has evolved and will continue to evolve to adapt to changing conditions and attitudes among the youth and parents in India. A marriage is much larger than whether it was arranged or born out of (fleeting/puppy/divine/heavenly) love.

The concept and system of _Apartheid_ is not something that needs fixing. It has evolved and will continue to evolve to adapt to changing conditions and attitudes.

Post by plinkplonk » Mon, Apr 06, 2009, 6:51 AM UTC

falsestprophet wrote: post #33

plinkplonk wrote: post #19

A more sensible interpretation is that marriage and courtship rituals ("courtship" extended to include "casual" relationships) have a heavy culture specific component to them. I had a Canadian manager (tall handsome intelligent guy) who tried applying his knowledge of how "dating" worked when he was posted to Bangalore for a year and "struck out" all the time until one day, at a party, he got drunk and asked me "Dude…

Please share the rules you are talking about. I think a lot of us Westerners would be interested to read about this foreign world.

Post by netcan » Mon, Apr 06, 2009, 7:03 AM UTC

plinkplonk wrote: post #29

patio11 wrote: post #8

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Partially a cultural thing, too. Americans don't do "servants", for certain values of "servant". Similarly, if you come to Japan and try to explain babysitting, you get looks of total horror. "Yes, I think its perfectly normal to talk to a mother I know, get the name of a 13 year old girl who lives in the neighborhood, pay her $20 so that I can have an evening out with my wife, and entrust my home and infant child to…

"if you come to Japan and try to explain babysitting, you get looks of total horror." My (Indian) mother was horrified when an American woman told her she(the American) was paid by her daughter to babysit her grand kids. The idea of turning baby sitting grandchildren into a "commercial transaction" was a horrifying thought to her. just another example of "different folks, different strokes".