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Why Developing Serious Relationships in Your 20s Matters

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Re: Why Developing Serious Relationships in Your 20s Matters

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Post by spullara »

yesimahuman wrote: post #29
richardjordan wrote: post #15

The broad point here is a very important one. I came to Silicon Valley in my late 20s. I'd already had a lot of relationship ups and downs. I got married not long after getting here. I'm now, um, older... It's great for folks who are fresh out of college that a bunch of middle-aged VCs who missed the boat on Zuckerberg because after the dot.com boom they were "playing it safe" backing their MBA buddies in startups wh…

I've found I travel and do more interesting things running a company than when I had a normal job or when I was a student. And the freedom of running an internet company means I could do it anywhere I want and still get paid (though to be honest, I don't utilize that much yet).

Cold, Mexican tile.

Re: Why Developing Serious Relationships in Your 20s Matters

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Post by richardjordan »

rbkillea wrote: post #5

I found this honestly repulsive. It's one thing to shun those who would steer someone away from what feels natural, and it's another to offer life advice based on what one perceives to be the norm. Just because you got hitched early doesn't mean I want/have to.

Repulsive? Really? Repulsive?

Someone's giving life advice to those younger than herself, based on her own life experiences. Something everyone does, increasingly so as you age - particularly if you care about people. I don't see anything other than good intentions in an article like this. tl;dr: "Prioritize love a bit more over work in your 20s instead of the norm that's emerging of putting that off till later" -- still fail to see what's repulsive in that message.

Re: Why Developing Serious Relationships in Your 20s Matters

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Post by tommi »

Claudus wrote: post #16

I've pursued many women in my life, and failed. I'm not especially tall, good looking, or rich, but I am smart, somewhat charismatic, and have a solid character. Everything I've done in my adult life has been motivated by my desire to be attractive to women that I'm interested in; studying hard to get good grades, going to grad school, pursuing good employment, developing my personal and social skills, working out, e…

Yes.

Re: Why Developing Serious Relationships in Your 20s Matters

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Post by notdarkyet »

Claudus wrote: post #16

I've pursued many women in my life, and failed. I'm not especially tall, good looking, or rich, but I am smart, somewhat charismatic, and have a solid character. Everything I've done in my adult life has been motivated by my desire to be attractive to women that I'm interested in; studying hard to get good grades, going to grad school, pursuing good employment, developing my personal and social skills, working out, e…

No. You should have done those things for yourself. Anything that drives you should have been for you.

Along the way, you find someone that views you for the person you are trying to be, the one you are now, and whatever is the spur of the moment.

I don't intend to judge you, just the comment. I really think this post is shit and I have not idea why I chose to respond to your post.

Chuck it up man. We are are all fucking just getting by with our shit.

Re: Why Developing Serious Relationships in Your 20s Matters

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Post by GuiA »

danneu wrote: post #25
GuiA wrote: post #12

This article reminds me of a book I recently read: "The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter" by Meg Jay– I highly recommend it to anyone in their 20s. Some portions of it apply more to the 20-something working at Starbucks while waiting for his band to make it big, and the HN crowd won't relate much to that, but there's plenty of other solid advice that I definitely related to. I'm not usually big on the self-h…

> working at Starbucks while waiting for his band to > make it big, and the HN crowd won't relate much to that Replace "band making it big" with any other dream and replace "working at Starbucks" with any other routine and you've described most of our lives, accompanied by that chilling, familiar fear that it won't work out in the end.

To an extent, your interpretation is correct.

But it's not really what's meant by that here (and I think you know it :) )– there are some (many?) 20-somethings out there who work as , because "I can always worry about a career when I'm 30" and "I'm just going to do this for a couple years while I find my thing".

I personally know people like this, and you probably do as well– that's the kind of attitude that was referred to in my original sentence.

Re: Why Developing Serious Relationships in Your 20s Matters

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Post by throwaway »

denzil_correa wrote: post #3

> Jobs are replaceable. People you truly love are not. Thanks for sharing. A wonderful article which summarizes the whole purpose of why we live. Work should be the means to the living experience rather than the ONLY living experience.

> Jobs are replaceable. People you truly love are not.

It is strange we suggest this only to people who are not pursuing arts. May be it does exist some shallowness to 'jobs' but I fail to see it.

Re: Why Developing Serious Relationships in Your 20s Matters

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Post by Claudus »

Claudus wrote: post #16

I've pursued many women in my life, and failed. I'm not especially tall, good looking, or rich, but I am smart, somewhat charismatic, and have a solid character. Everything I've done in my adult life has been motivated by my desire to be attractive to women that I'm interested in; studying hard to get good grades, going to grad school, pursuing good employment, developing my personal and social skills, working out, e…

I guess this article is good advice for the people who have frequent opportunities to develop meaningful romantic relationships and decide to pass on them.

Unfortunately, I'm not one of those people.

Re: Why Developing Serious Relationships in Your 20s Matters

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Post by Claudus »

notdarkyet wrote: post #35
Claudus wrote: post #16

I've pursued many women in my life, and failed. I'm not especially tall, good looking, or rich, but I am smart, somewhat charismatic, and have a solid character. Everything I've done in my adult life has been motivated by my desire to be attractive to women that I'm interested in; studying hard to get good grades, going to grad school, pursuing good employment, developing my personal and social skills, working out, e…

No. You should have done those things for yourself. Anything that drives you should have been for you. Along the way, you find someone that views you for the person you are trying to be, the one you are now, and whatever is the spur of the moment. I don't intend to judge you, just the comment. I really think this post is shit and I have not idea why I chose to respond to your post. Chuck it up man. We are are all fuc…

I have done these things for myself.
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