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I believe I read an article in a newspaper once where they tracked married couples with differing IQs over time. Where the male was the smarter partner, the woman's IQ increased. Where the female was the smarter partner, the woman's IQ decreased. I guess the consolation from this is it may become a less acute problem over time :-)
How are you even measuring "smarts?" This seems like more of a personal problem in terms of your perception than a real problem that needs "solving." As long as the two of you are roughly on the same "level" in that you can have a decent two-way discussion about things you are both interested in; I cannot see how this would ever be an issue. Also, your self-esteem takes a knock every time you meet someone you deem "s…
She is your girlfriend? Or you just started dating her? Which is it? ;) For all your dating questions, go search for "Doc Love" at Ask Men. He writes articles there and they are gold for dating advice. This man is a wizard. Don't take advice from anyone else. Thank me later. Appearances are everything. Don't worry about being smart, rather, shoot for appearing smart. One of the most powerful ways to appear smart is t…
Go see a psychologist. Truly, for just asking this question. Not just for male superiority but because of some narcissistic tendency that you think you are supposed to be smarter then her. I can assure you that no matter how smart you think you are, women will always be smarter then you; especially if it's an argument. You're not even giving us a baseline of what 'smarts' is in your definition. I've dated women who w…
You would certainly prefer to be the smartest. Do you feel threatened ?
It feels threatening knowing that your partner is always right, and thereby when you argue makes you always (mostly) wrong. It also feels threatening knowing that she's capable of doing whatever it is you're doing just better.
Are you sure she's smarter? Maybe she's just more assertive and/or forceful?
Define "smarter".
She's capable of studying any new topic much faster than I. Even topic that she has no experience in and I have been working on for several years. She's doing an MD in Medicine and a bsc in computer science simultaneously. She's also a Marathon runner and a quite successful artist.
Define "smarter".
She's capable of studying any new topic much faster than I. Even topic that she has no experience in and I have been working on for several years. She's doing an MD in Medicine and a bsc in computer science simultaneously. She's also a Marathon runner and a quite successful artist.
Marathon runner - Result of LOTS of training; you shouldn't count this at all, except to say she's motivated to run.
Successful artist - Creative, skilled, and/or knows what people will buy. Are you a successful ? How did you get there? Surely you have some combination of skills that got you there.
Quickness of learning - Perhaps she knows the optimal learning style for herself, and you do not.
MD + BSc - Time management plus being able to retain the information and apply it. This could relate to the quickness of learning.
Now for the bad news: Maybe you're legitimately "not as smart" as your girlfriend, for whatever definition of "smart" you're using. Not everything is about pure IQ scores.
I agree with the other comments that people have different areas of skills, and everyone may not have the same ability level in a given area, but the idea is that your skills complement each other.
She is your girlfriend? Or you just started dating her? Which is it? ;) For all your dating questions, go search for "Doc Love" at Ask Men. He writes articles there and they are gold for dating advice. This man is a wizard. Don't take advice from anyone else. Thank me later. Appearances are everything. Don't worry about being smart, rather, shoot for appearing smart. One of the most powerful ways to appear smart is t…
> (the girl _who_ you are dating is better than the girl _that_ your friend is dating.) Shouldn't that be "the girl whom you are dating?"
However, the rules of grammar change over time. Usage of who versus whom is a case which could go either way. There is the proper usage and then there is the popular usage. I hardly ever hear the word "whom" being used and I don't use the word because I feel weird saying it. The fewer people using that word, the less important it becomes as a rule of grammar.
She is your girlfriend? Or you just started dating her? Which is it? ;) For all your dating questions, go search for "Doc Love" at Ask Men. He writes articles there and they are gold for dating advice. This man is a wizard. Don't take advice from anyone else. Thank me later. Appearances are everything. Don't worry about being smart, rather, shoot for appearing smart. One of the most powerful ways to appear smart is t…
You cannot be serious about the "Doc Love" dude on Ask Men? That guy just repeats generic platitudes and repeats nonsense from various dating books. I'm fairly sure he is who the "Barney" character on How I Met Your Mother is based. Reading that site was fun when I was a young guy but as you grow older it becomes very apparent that it is just the blind leading the blind. The entire site is just a giant advertising bo…
I had a really exceptional girlfriend (extremely smart, successful and beautiful) - and married her. In general you should see it as a success. Most people only date the next-best-fit, you found someone you admire. Ask her what she admires/ loves in you and you'll surely find out some truly exceptional facts about yourself to soothe your self-esteem.