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Re: Any open source porn blocking setups?

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I'm pretty involved in the open source software world in this space. I'd recommend you'd look into these two projects below. Neither of them are a "filter". In my experience though, filters are marginally useful anyways.

https://netresponsibility.com -- is accountability software. It monitors the sites you visit and sends reports to a friend of sites it thinks are "bad". This, in my opinion, is far better than filtering software because it forces you to have a conversation with your partner about what went down and why. It has gotten pretty stale and the current released version is basically non-working because dependency updates have broken a lot of things. A few devs are working on the next version (v4) on and off trying to get it off the ground. It works well, just needs more testing and more contributors. This runs on *nix and osx.

https://fasterscaleapp.com -- is a tool to help you become more self-aware of your emotional status and why you feel whatever way you feel. Addicts are notoriously awful at identifying what they're really feeling (and people in general are worse than they might initially think). The idea is that as you become better able to identify the direction you're headed in you can take actions to prevent a relapse or acting out BEFORE you get to that point. Both of those projects are OSS and the repos should be easily findable from those websites.

Both of these projects would really benefit from help, contributors, and just regular users. Net Responsibility has a forum and mailing list that you can get involved in. Faster Scale App is not quite as organized, it's just one guy working on it.

Re: Any open source porn blocking setups?

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What you describe is going to be very, very hard to achieve. Looking at this simply from the standpoint of addition for the sake of simplicity, if you cannot utterly, completely, totally (etc) eliminate every possible chance for you to be able to access what you're trying to access. Whatever you try, you will know that there's a way to work around it and find yourself surprisingly motivated to bypass any limitations…

Thank you for your response. > Unfortunately I think you would need to lock yourself in a room to achieve the kind of solution you're trying to get at. While addictions can be so extreme as you described, this doesn't describe me, and I don't think (correct me if I am wrong) it is very typical of someone who would consider themselves addicted to pornography. Typically before my session, I would be in a worse than nor…

Woops, took me a bit to get back to this.

Hm, I think I got completely sidetracked with the concept of addiction when I was composing my initial response. It's completely reasonable to say that I described a statistically unlikely worst-case scenario, and I'm glad to hear your situation isn't that bad!

Looking at it from a different angle, removing high fructose corn syrup and other forms of highly concentrated sugar from your diet is an extremely healthy thing to do; HFCS can become addictive. What we're describing is exactly the same thing, if you ask me; just remove the concentrated/hyperoptimized stimulati, and everything will balance itself back out.

Yeah, it'll be a huge adjustment and kind of depressing to begin with but it's for the best.

As I said in my previous comment, actual sex is what's enjoyable, and everything else is just a means to an end. IMO, guilt-tripping people into thinking "running the photocopier" (if you will) is unconditionally wrong is itself a hugely imbalanced view to have.

Also, /r/NoFap focuses on "short periods of abstinence" - these might be weeks/months long, but they aren't permanent. I'm honestly not sure how people would abstain, myself.

Spending more time with others sounds like a great idea, but IMHO it cannot be a full replacement for what I describe in the previous paragraph, and trying to treat it as such may cause you to wind up in some suboptimal situations (continuous distraction leading to, uh, unexpected relationships, etc).

Re: Any open source porn blocking setups?

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The best case would be if your internet connection ITSELF whitelisted out porn/viruses. Apart from massive government intrusion--and criminal penalties from circumventing your assigned whitelist--the best you can do is fix your modem/ISP connectivity (anything device side is trivial to circumvent).

It SHOULD be trivial to have a whitelist operating via a hardpoint like your modem or your ISP. But sadly, the market does not offer such options--and enabling your ISP to block any particular traffic means they have to sniff it ALL out.

But the reality is: you can just buy a different modem or ISP.

And if that isn't the case, you can just stare at women in bikinis at the beach or the nearby pool... or the slightly short/tight skirt or loose blouse of your co-worker... or the professionally dressed news caster on TV... or pictures of Mother Theresa in her habit.

Well, maybe if you wean yourself down to nuns in habits, I suppose you might be cured.

But the reality is that you are under a spell, and you don't quite realize it. Call it sin, call it "not a struggle against flesh and blood but against powers and principalities," call it addiction, call it some psychological/emotional disorder....

No matter what, you are under a spell, a trance, a stupor... like the spell the King of Rohan was under by Wormtongue in Lord of the Rings. It IS poison that you drink daily, but you haven't really woken up to the fact.

The power of addiction is that it convinces you that it isn't really there, or that it really isn't self destructive. And everytime you go back to it, it gets to keep whispering its lies and pouring its poison into your ears while you sleep, and while you stumble half-awake otherwise.

So... you either need to so fully suffer a tragedy so immense that it snaps you back into full consciousness and gets you seriously down the road of recovery, or you need to get maximally aggressive in getting away from it so you can CLEAR YOUR HEAD.

What I had to do? Get rid of my computer and internet access altogether, except under extremely controlled settings in public with accountability.

It's hard to imagine surviving without the computer and IoT, but humans managed to do without it for 50K to 6.5K years (depending on your faith).

That's the realization I had to get to, and from what I read, my "addiction" was about as light and controlled as yours. Still, at this point, I can see how it was continually poisoning my mind, clouding my thoughts, lulling my senses, turning all consciousness into a constant search for the next hit from the slightest curve or cleavage.

F' that man! There's so many more wonderful/terrible/thrilling things to notice and experience in the world.

Very few escape our sexuality and primal/primary drives, but we don't have to be slaves to them!

Do whatever is necessary to get completely clear for 30-90 days to let your brain start to rewire. You will notice a huge change after just a week!

P.S. Video games are a big problem too. Get clear of the junk.

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