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The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Post by BobaFloutist »

exe34 wrote: post #269
BobaFloutist wrote: post #256

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Uh, only if invited? I mean do you not ever get lunch with coworkers or invite them to events you're hosting or ask if they want to see a movie or concert with you that you've been into? The important thing is to establish a positive social relationship before indicating any sort of sexual interest, so they know you as "My chill coworker John" rather than "John the guy at the office who's always staring at my tits an…

> The important thing is to establish a positive social relationship before indicating any sort of sexual interest > asked me out for 'drinks' before we ever had a single conversation." can you see the problem?

I was wondering if someone would jump on that. Are you genuinely curious about or unclear on the difference? Do you legitimately not understand how those two statements can be true? I'm willing to try to explain, if you're seriously interested, but if you're motivated by trying to demonstrate that I'm incorrect I won't waste my time.

Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Post by hcnova10 »

As an Asian guy, I’d guess the statistics in Asia are even worse. There’s the combination of long working hours, academic pressure and a culture that tends to be less openly sexual. From my own experience dating both Asian and Western women, I’ve noticed a clear difference: Western women often bring up sexual topics casually, sometimes even asking for nude photos and wondering why you haven’t already suggested it. That’s something I’ve never encountered with Asian women. It makes me think that in long-term relationships too, Western women are more likely to be sexually expressive and expect frequent sex, whereas Asian women generally place less emphasis on it.

Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Post by bmitch3020 »

This can be summed up as a time and money problem.

Time has disappeared as people attempt to do everything themselves (work, cooking, cleaning, managing finances, etc) that may have been shared or outsourced in the past. But time has also disappeared into intentionally addictive apps on our phones. Every commercial game and social media site is designed to maximize your eyes.

Money seems to be ignored by the article, but every generation is worse off than their parents, as wages stagnate, housing skyrockets, student loan and medical debt keep going up, leaving less and less disposable income. With finances so tight, people cut back on group gatherings that have an associated expense (bars, concerts, etc). And raising children becomes unaffordable.

Personally, I blame billionaires, including their influence on tax policies, suppression of wages, and the creation of monopolies that push up prices. The elimination of sex is just one of many side effects of a much bigger issue affecting the working population around the world.

Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Post by TrnsltLife »

cush wrote: post #78
chongli wrote: post #52

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The decline of community is a very big deal. I think a lot of it has to do with the way we build our living spaces. Modern North American cities are rife with car-centric suburbs, huge driveways, front doors set back a mile from the sidewalk, long commutes to anywhere (not just work, even to get groceries). We're living in these metal-and-glass boxes and we only see other people as obstacles in the way of what we wan…

All good points. Work from home isn’t helping us any either. People typically meet their partners at work.

Dating at work has almost become an incest level taboo.

Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Post by woooooo »

exe34 wrote: post #267
woooooo wrote: post #242

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You're missing the distinction. I met my wife at work but any and all propositioning happened outside the office, and not at office social events either.

and how did you get access to her outside the office for this propositioning?

Social event.

Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Post by kbelder »

_qbxi wrote: post #259
jjk166 wrote: post #156

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Porn is a substitute for seeing strangers naked. It's not a substitute for relationships, or even for sexual release. Masturbating is no cheaper or easier now than it ever was; people have been pursuing romantic and sexual relationships despite having the option to masturbate forever.

> Masturbating is no cheaper or easier now than it ever was Given the amount of men who can't masturbate using their imaginations, masturbation has absolutely become cheaper and easier.

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Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Post by fennecbutt »

revx wrote: post #5

The article mostly blames pornography and digital addiction, but I think those are symptoms of a larger problem, which is lack of belonging and community. If life sucks, you have few friends you can afford the time or money to see, and you work to make other people rich until you are exhausted, when do you have time and energy to maintain a relationship? If you feel like the world is on fire, it's hard to get in the…

But are they being given fair sex Ed that includes same sex stuff too? Because that still seems incredibly lacking even amongst the "less prude" communities for it.

Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Post by fennecbutt »

platevoltage wrote: post #217
cush wrote: post #78

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All good points. Work from home isn’t helping us any either. People typically meet their partners at work.

Most of my working life I've worked with grizzled old dudes. I think thats the case for a lot of other men too.

Not everyone is straight either

Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Post by fennecbutt »

lazide wrote: post #42
add-sub-mul-div wrote: post #35

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True. The decline has been in effect for a while, but as for recent chages losing reproductive freedom can't be helping, nor AI and legal weed as two new ways for people to opiate themselves.

Eh, having lived in many other countries - lack of reproductive freedom definitely doesn’t cut back on sex. Same with public shaming, or other coercive control. It’s not like there are 1.5 billion Indians because no one has sex there.

Well they do also have 6-10 kids per family there so...
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