Never pay for online dating (2010)

Post by ABraidotti » Tue, Oct 11, 2022, 4:51 PM UTC

BrainVirus wrote: post #268

EmilyHughes wrote: post #62

I don't get it. Why does no government anywhere run a non-profit dating site from tax-payer money when this is becoming the most popular way people are meeting? All the options people have are using toxic apps which entire business model is to undermine the self-esteem of young men and scamming them out of their money. And then people wonder where the mental health problems and mass shootings come from. I really don'…

>Why does no government anywhere run a non-profit dating site from tax-payer money when this is becoming the most popular way people are meeting? Sounds like a great idea. I nominate NSA as the host organization. You wouldn't even need to bother creating a profile, they will just use all the surveillance data to find you the best matches. https://crossdysfunctional.tumblr.com/post/109024982557/fund...

Post by slater » Tue, Oct 11, 2022, 4:53 PM UTC

throwaway289943 wrote: post #225

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Dating apps do not work because you are not actually present. You have the attention of hundreds of people at the same time, so unless you decide to meet up right away, the other party immediately loses interest. Most of the people are just looking for sex or something less serious, and the apps heavily paywall males. They are cancer. Meeting through friends is probably the safest, as that at least gives you some saf…

Another big reason why dating apps suck, is that people don't go on dates. People meet their partners in groups of friends of friends, at parties. Before dating apps, nobody would ask a stranger out for a date, and nobody wants to do that now either, so the apps is enabling something that people don't actually want. It should be focused on getting together groups of friends of friends for parties instead.

Post by EmilyHughes » Tue, Oct 11, 2022, 4:53 PM UTC

tiborsaas wrote: post #121

EmilyHughes wrote: post #62

I don't get it. Why does no government anywhere run a non-profit dating site from tax-payer money when this is becoming the most popular way people are meeting? All the options people have are using toxic apps which entire business model is to undermine the self-esteem of young men and scamming them out of their money. And then people wonder where the mental health problems and mass shootings come from. I really don'…

Sharing your desires, sexual preference and all intimate conversions with the government doesn't seem like a good idea. You could say they can tap into that currently, and that's probably true, but deliberately broadcasting it to them would probably be out of question for many people. Also, consider what government run IT projects look like. Now mix that with a dating app, perfect recipe for a disaster.

Post by Tangurena2 » Tue, Oct 11, 2022, 4:55 PM UTC

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only if they are the only dating app around. if not, then having a reputation for actually matching people well will bring more people to the app and generate more revenue than you would ever get from a small amount of desperate customers. Of course, matching people well is hard - so any model that isnt good at that will be better off trying to game their customers and brute force their marketing. (for example, if th…

> Of course, matching people well is hard I thought OKCupid did a great job. The second person I had a conversation with ended up becoming my wife. I really liked how OKCupid had a seemingly never-ending set of personality questions. You could answer none of them, or you could answer 100 of them, and the more you answered, the more confidence it had in its matching. You would even flag the importance of each question…

Post by ryandrake » Tue, Oct 11, 2022, 4:57 PM UTC

antiterra wrote: post #111

EmilyHughes wrote: post #62

I don't get it. Why does no government anywhere run a non-profit dating site from tax-payer money when this is becoming the most popular way people are meeting? All the options people have are using toxic apps which entire business model is to undermine the self-esteem of young men and scamming them out of their money. And then people wonder where the mental health problems and mass shootings come from. I really don'…

I'm all for a lot of state-sponsored things, but a government run dating site sounds like one of the most dystopian ideas I can imagine. Blaming online dating sites for mental health problems and mass shooting is a new one. I don't discount the feeling of despair that can occur on dating sites for men. However, the experience of a being woman on a dating app is absolutely harrowing, even if you have incredibly low st…