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It is managed by the reptilian brain, not the neocortex. Unfortunately is the neocortex that pays bills :D
The exceptions to this are strippers and prostitutes.
1). Get good at talking to people, getting to know them. Making jokes and small talk. This requires practice but you can practice on anyone, talking to men and women is kind of the same skill.
2). Expand your social network. Join a book club. A lot of times the people you go on dates with will be friends of friends. This takes time and effort.
3). Take care of yourself. Get some exercise and take care of your skin. Get a flattering haircut.
All of these things are doable by anyone, especially if you’re young, they just take some time and effort, and a lot of time we nerdy men are too busy with projects and work to do them, that’s why we end up lonely. Not because women are all irrational or something. That’s just an excuse.