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Being ambitious and being a dad

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Re: Being ambitious and being a dad

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Post by keeda »

triceratops wrote: post #147
daggerdrone wrote: post #64

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Isn’t it unhealthy to skip both breakfast and lunch? How are you getting the energy to do stuff without eating?

It's only unhealthy if you get hungry.

Wellllll, kind of... I've realized hunger is often just another habit because we're used to eating N meals a day, like the GP comment implies. I've done a quasi OMAD (1-meal a day) thing on-and-off for 3+ years now and don't feel hungry the rest of the time, given my current physical activity levels. It took a few days to get used to, but now I can start and stop OMAD on demand.

I'd recommend everyone try fasting and figure out what their bodies really need (preferably over the holidays, because the adjustment period can be a bit rough and could interfere with work.) I suspect most of the developed world is over-eating by quite a lot given our largely sedentary lifestyles.

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Post by alansaber »

SoftTalker wrote: post #150
katzgrau wrote: post #59

YC reject so I bootstrapped and was thankfully able to hit profitability before my first kid showed up. I’ve now got two. I also have dreams bigger than ever. In fact, writing this while sitting on the couch with the kids watching Muppet Treasure Island while my kids are wearing pirate hats and waving foam swords. I’m still extremely productive and prolific. Probably less compared with before. But before, I had frien…

But time to post on HN?

He posts less than once a week so yes

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Post by quadrifoliate »

senkora wrote: post #196
quadrifoliate wrote: post #133

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> The online discourse around this book can be kinda vitriolic (lots of examples of it starting arguments) Yeah, no wonder given that it starts with an unrealistic view that the average man is a lazy slob that sits around playing video games while his wife has to handle everything with children and the household. You keep waiting for her to mention that anything else might be possible throughout the book, but that ne…

Yeah... I do have some issues with the book. I think that the cards tend to be weighted towards things that women care more about, which naturally means that women end up being responsible for more of them. And different cards require different amounts of time to handle. The way that I’ve tried to handle this is to focus on equalizing “total time per week spent on managing cards”, which requires time-tracking but is…

I had no problem with the cards or the system, I like and have tried them with my partner.

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Post by colechristensen »

MeetingsBrowser wrote: post #195
ColdStream wrote: post #152

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As a fun project, you should look up the history of eating schedules. They vary wildly between different cultures. Some have a single large meal at the start of the day, others have 5 smaller meals spread through, and everything in between. There is no standard even if it feels like it simply because that is how we are raised. It is but social convention.

Social and historical conventions don’t necessarily align with “good for your health”.

Most "good for your health" advice is pop culture driven with a half life of 5 years anyway and breakfast being the most important meal of the day is a marketing slogan. In other words, no better than any various convention.

About the only things that stick are "don't stop physical and mental activity as you age" and "do stuff in moderation".

If you call it "intermittent fasting" and write a book about it, you can get a whole movement behind how healthy skipping breakfast and lunch is. And another movement preaching about how bad it is. And a followup book about what you REALLY should do ad nauseam.

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Post by alansaber »

Aeolun wrote: post #180
computerdork wrote: post #157

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Haha! Very interesting life goal - When your dependents have sucked all the life out of you, you can kick the bucket:) (And am sure it’s worth it)

Rather sounds like they’ve given them their life back.

Exactly, good for them

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Post by alansaber »

ignoramous wrote: post #24
handedness wrote: post #17

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I would also add that, at least in my experience, those who are professionally ambitious and maximizing professional success, while being highly confident they are also succeeding at home, often have an inaccurate view of their home life. It's not until the kids are grown and openly fighting their demons that they realize the bargain that they made. It's that old adage of, anyone who thinks they're a great parent, pr…

> we shouldn't build our fairy tales around Being self-aware and self-critical is one of those changes that instantly improves everyone's life around us, including our own.

Yes, for most I would guess it's hard to get criticism in the right dose/frequency

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Post by alansaber »

archeantus wrote: post #138

I felt very conflicted about this topic when I was young and working for Apple. I decided the Valley commute and rat race wasn’t very family conducive so I took a remote job and moved a few states over and it’s been great. I’ve been fully remote for 12+ years now, and I’ve had a very successful career in engineering and engineering leadership. I also have eight kids that I get to spend a ton of time with. There’s a r…

Probably would have just remained as an apple lifer

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Post by alansaber »

fionic wrote: post #186

“Completely removing time-wasting activities” Is a bit harsh to me. You might be ultra competitive but it could also be how you define it. But in my opinion sometimes “time wasting activities” are needed for recharging your own batteries and this kind of phrasing sounds like burnout. Like if I said fishing someone would justify it as not being time wasting etc or meditating or something you would justify as health wo…

Conflating low quality downtime (like scrolling on your phone) to fishing is not fair. I've probably been happiest during periods of almost zero downtime (but still separate days off)
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