I love you, dad • Hacker News Board

Re: I love you, dad

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Post by hluska » Fri, Dec 14, 2012, 10:05 PM UTC

diego wrote: post #73

jbail wrote: post #6

That gave me chills. I'm constantly impressed by people that have the ability to share their personal life with the world in an honest way that reveals the vulnerabilities we all share as humans. It is so much more refreshing than the opposite, where we pretend our lives are perfect and we never experience moments of doubt or melancholy. It is rare to see someone make a post like this. This is precisely what makes it…

You may be interested in my post from yesterday. http://longposts.com/1990082

Sharing that was tremendously kind of you. Thank you for sharing it and I am sorry you've had such a horrible year.

Re: I love you, dad

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Post by c141charlie » Fri, Dec 14, 2012, 10:14 PM UTC

Very moving. Now inverse the situation, where it's your child who dies. The pain would be at least 2x worse. And this is what happened in Connecticut today.

Re: I love you, dad

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Post by theltrj » Sat, Dec 15, 2012, 2:20 AM UTC

tragic, so sorry for your loss, thank you for sharing

Re: I love you, dad

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Post by sahat » Sat, Dec 15, 2012, 6:40 AM UTC

SoftwareMaven wrote: post #148

wsc981 wrote: post #144

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Try to appreciate your family for as long as you can, since you'll never know when they're gone. In 2004, when I was 23 years old, I lost both my parents and a sister in a car accident. We had a really nice family and great parents, never expected this to happen. It caused me a depression that lasted almost 7 years. Personally I wouldn't want a girlfriend that wants to become a mother, the pain of losing someone very…

You have to balance the risk of pain with the possibility of joy. It is certainly possible to live a life cut of from others where you never have to worry about losing anybody, but you lose the joy that comes from those same connections. While it's true that the closer the connection, the greater the chance of pain, it is also true that they are also greater sources of joy. Having gone through more than one multi-yea…

You know what they say - "you'll never miss, what you never had".

Re: I love you, dad

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Post by bogatyrjov » Sat, Dec 15, 2012, 4:58 PM UTC

I understand when somebody writes an article in the format : "When I founded XXX, " or "I am years old and this is my side project, check it out". But when You tell about someones death in your story to promote your product, if it is your close relative... I think it is disgraceful.

Re: I love you, dad

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Post by lutze » Sat, Dec 15, 2012, 9:21 PM UTC

jspthrowaway2 wrote: post #201

eric_h wrote: post #168

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And now, reading this username, I realize I've been trolled... Nevertheless, I believe my points still stand.

You have not been trolled. I, too, laud him for the post, I just don't like Hacker News getting carried away and comparing him to Jesus incarnate. As for the appropriateness of the timing, I was responding to a comment that extrapolated from this blog post to reflect upon him as a person, so it's unfair to tell me "this isn't the time" but not the person I'm responding to. It's also fairly condescending to assume bas…

Yeah, it's not like this guy gave away shitloads of money to his employees out of the blue for absolutely no reason.

What an asshole!

We all fuck up every now and again, we're only human. Despite this, Notch has demonstrated time and again that he is in fact one of the good guys.

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Post by peterhost » Sat, Dec 15, 2012, 9:33 PM UTC

Haven't seen it mentionned a lot in comments, but it also happens that drugs are not the culprit. Your brain might be, or more largely your DNA. Drugs and alcohol are just ways (self destructive) to try and cope with the fact of simply being alive.

I had such an alcohool problem when i was 26 or so (some serious, drink alone thing). Only 10 years afterwards was i diagnosed with a problem in neuro-trnamitters, which another drug (medecine) just made disappear. I've been living 6 years in a world without fear and mental pain, since, something i've never experienced before. My brain was the main culprit.

I just wish we could advance our understanding of the brain so as not to serve people anymore of "god hate you" / "it's your fault" bullshit.

I'm gonna kick some creeper's asses tonight in memory of all the suffering ones (yeah, creeper's are good scapegoats, i know it's not their fault either;). Thx all of you for sharing, i've spent an interesting evenig reading the whole thing.

Re: I love you, dad

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Post by lostlogin » Sat, Dec 15, 2012, 9:57 PM UTC

speeder wrote: post #153

baconner wrote: post #103

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And what would you answer to the same question? "So, when you have your 4 months old kid, you will stay at home to take care of it if your wife is rich enough for that?"

I don't have breasts. There are boatloads of research that shows that children younger than 1 year really need contact with the mother ( even if adoptive ), breastfeeding, and simple body contact ( among other things ) are part of various processes, mostly related to hormones. It is great selfishness to hurt a child by not allowing it intense and almost constant contact with the mother ( not the father ) Working is n…

I cry foul. Massive numbers of mothers can't breast feed. And frankly, if its hard, don't bother. Give the child formula, be a happier person and the child will be better off for that alone. The pressure to breast feed is huge and considering that there are far bigger problems - why bother? My wife couldn't breast feed for long and felt terrible for it and was under pressure from almost all corners to carry on. But once she stopped the child, her and me were happier. Do what suits without fear.

Re: I love you, dad

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Post by lostlogin » Sat, Dec 15, 2012, 11:16 PM UTC

jacoblyles wrote: post #83

speeder wrote: post #69

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There are some US department of Justice data that shows stuff like 70% of people in prison being from fatherless homes and other things like that. There was somewhere in about.com a collection of that sort of data.

The more I learn about social data, the more I learn to appreciate traditional values and wisdom.

Considering that life expectancy, quality of life and opportunities for better life are all somewhat better than historically, I for one like the current way of the world. I say this comparing it to what was, not to what it could be. Far too many people (a majority?) have far too little. I've just waved off my grandparents at the airport. My grandfather is the last living of his 14 siblings. 7 made it out of a childhood of abuse, poverty and neglect. Edinburgh in the 1940s sounds like a hell if you were poor. Edit: autocorrect error.