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Dad brains: How fatherhood rewires the male mind

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Post by anthk »

bad_haircut72 wrote: post #101
gosub100 wrote: post #84

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It's amazing coincidence how the two genders have biological features that together support life. You should check it out sometime.

The only biological feature that makes women "better" at handling screaming kids is the inability to do anything about when frustrated men choose to deflect and defer reaponsibility to the helpless women if the tribe, because they are stronger & not physically burdened by child-carrying, usually with violence or threat of violence - for generations in a row, until we all sub-consciously accepted it as a truth. Like t…

Hormones tell me otherwise. Women suffer a symbiosis from the fetus for the whole pregangcy.

Also, they have very distinct spatio-temporal skills compared to men. And that experiment is nothing against millenia on behaviour encoding in your genes.

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Post by anthk »

gosub100 wrote: post #210
anthk wrote: post #198

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If you think different sets of hormones do not condition tons of behaviours you are deluded, buddy. It affects me as a man, too, be highly educated or not. As I said, one of my favourite recreational Math authors (like Conway or Gardner) it's a woman, and her favourite Math branch it's discrete Math. Now, please, understand that she was pefectly able to understand the rest, as Mathematician men are able to the same w…

You can't talk about nature, as that contradicts "The Message"

People doesn't seem to understand the concept of overlapping Bell curves. I'm a geeky guy, but I love good jokes and rimericks, and good mystery novels too.

The left loves to focus on extremes and tries to cancel the whole graph, as it happened with the post from Google on women and men in STEM. The right would love to snip any edge (artsy men, even if they are nerdy/geeky), or technical women -there are several, even in rural places where often men died young, far earlier than women and thus they had to learn several skills in order to survive. Heck, with Bulma from Dragon Ball and Scully from The X-Files there are tons of them, more than the mentioned Bell curve's edges.

And yet here we are. Both the extreme left and extreme right hate Science, because it makes most of their arguments a total bullshit.

Said this:

- quotas on race, gender or sexuality are bullshit. Are you poor and/or disabled? Ok, set quotas for these, as they are in actual danger.

- It will never a 50/50 parity of men/women in STEM by design. Maybe in 50000 years, but for that you would need to have proper parental leaves and throw the 40h week to the trash. Since the 80's the productivy skyrocketed and by just working 20h/week (even by employing 1.5x more people) the producitivy would be equal if not superior, because of the lack of burnouts. Also, the economy would rise a lot too, as people would have more time to go outside and do the chores. Healthcare costs would plummet down too as stress and mental related illnesses would go near 0.

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Post by Throaway199999 »

watwut wrote: post #129
cineticdaffodil wrote: post #111

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How do youvarrive at matruarchal while most male mammals display hormonal harem bloat? If nature blows you up into body building brute once you have a family, does that not indicate a clear pyramid of force and a violence monopoly? PS: prediction power and testable.. could be science where it not for utopist airsuperiority

Males looking like body builders is not something observed in any non western nom modern culture. Tribes tend to have thin men. They dont have big bulky muscles. Agricultural subsistence cultures tend to have thin men. They can be violent all the same. Just that bulky look is modern male aesthetic.

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Post by ludicrousdispla »

herewulf wrote: post #187
ludicrousdispla wrote: post #117

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Reminds me of when I would stay up late ironing my wife's maternity BDUs.

With or without starch? Please tell me you were taking care of boots as well!

I don't recall using starch on the BDUs, I might have polished the boots once or twice, but that was just over twenty years ago, so who knows.

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Post by IAmBroom »

kyleee wrote: post #106
bitshiftfaced wrote: post #30

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Parents also tend to gain weight, and higher BMI is associated with a decline in T. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3809034/

Do BBC have low T?

I'm not going to google that to find out what you meant.

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Post by goku12 »

nailer wrote: post #118
goku12 wrote: post #65

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You're conflating nurturing and protection with birthing and nursing. I also don't understand why this opinion is so controversial. Humans, including men are one of the rare species that nurture and protect babies (consciously and beyond symbiosis) of other individuals or even species, including wild animals. Why is it so surprising then that men are good at nurturing their own babies?

> You're conflating nurturing and protection with birthing and nursing. No I rather pointing out that essential parts of nurture and protection are nursing and birthing. Nurturing involves feeding. Birthing provides protection through biome, as explained in the comment you’re replying to.

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Post by roody15 »

move-on-by wrote: post #189
JKCalhoun wrote: post #143

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"As a father of 3 daughters now approaching 50 with my oldest now 24…" You and I are akin (I waited a decade longer to start a family though.) I definitely see my life as divided between before and after having had kids. I mean that's pretty obvious—and you can find any other big event in life and make that claim. But for me there has been nothing more dramatic to have redirected my own life. To the point that (and t…

> I was suddenly overwhelmed with purposelessness My kids are young enough that I don’t need to worry about it yet, but I can totally see how I might have the same issue. Beyond just myself, my partner is just as invested in the kids and I can foresee needing to rediscover ourselves together. Do you have any advice, tips, or insights for new empty nesters?

No, unfortunately this has been extremely difficult in my life. With raising children you have a shared goal and in although its hard it makes life simpler in you have something meaningful to focus on. Without kids we have had to face our own emotional issues and dynamics and this has not been easy.
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