The Bitter Regrets of a Useless Chinese Daughter

Post by spyckie2 » Fri, Aug 24, 2018, 4:49 PM UTC

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What you both describe is large cultural division between survival values and self-expression values between two generations. In quickly developing countries some people already live modern life but their parents come from very traditional valued society. What in the west is cultural division between grandparents and grandchildren can be division between parents and children. Political scientist Ronald Inglehart (kno…

"Survival values" is just right, and key. I've lived this divide (1st gen Russian), and as a teenager could not comprehend why my parents constantly pressured me to study physics and maths, which did not come naturally to me, and why they did not see any value in my achievements in the humanities, or even recognise them as work at all. As a young adult I understood that from their perspective, physics and maths was t…

Post by buckminster » Fri, Aug 24, 2018, 4:56 PM UTC

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Both my wife and I grew up quite poor (for US standards). We didn’t quite fit in at university and had a hard time relating to our peers who grew up with money (my wife’s parents encouraged her to not go to school but just stay and marry local). We’re doing well for ourselves, but still don’t really fit in among our peers. We’ve coined a phrase for it: “your poverty is showing.” It doesn’t matter how much I make: at…

> It doesn’t matter how much I make: at the core I’m still a poor kid in a rich world. Does this tend to bring destructive tendencies? I earn well over median income and have investments etc. I still live cheap enough to be self-sufficient on less than $12K a year (inclusive of rent). I am so scared of what's going to happen when it all ends that it keeps me up at night. Edited -> $12K/year not month!

Post by x0x0 » Fri, Aug 24, 2018, 4:58 PM UTC

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It's not the same. My parents grew up very poor. We were comfortably middle class until my dad died while I was young. I helped my parent with bills from the time I was 18. Even in me, you can see the difference that never going hungry makes vs my mother, who regularly went hungry growing up. And will still drive 45 minutes across town to save $2 on gas.

I’m all for frugality. But you wouldn’t pay $2 for the freedom to use those 45 minutes in some other way?

Post by atmosx » Fri, Aug 24, 2018, 5:10 PM UTC

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Is saying that many of the homeless in America are mentally ill blaming them? It's our health system that can't handle them, for a plethora of reasons. It's not the homeless peoples' fault for having schizophrenia or PTSD or whatever mental illness, which many of them do.

Homelessness can't be fixed "at source". People become homeless simply by losing their job and defaulting on their mortgage. Walking around San Francisco you would get the impression that most homeless people are mentally ill, but you'd be missing all the people sleeping away from busy streets, in tents, in their cars, squatting in unused buildings, couch surfing between friends, etc.

Post by User23 » Fri, Aug 24, 2018, 5:10 PM UTC

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http://news.mit.edu/2014/workplace-diversity-can-help-bottom... https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.forbes.com/sites/ruchikatul... There are many many other studies, all easily queried. There’s also the largest and richest country in the world as a case study.

The largest country in the world is Russia, and the richest is Iceland. Do you mean the US ? If so, what makes you think the US got successful because of diversity instead of other factors ? Similarly, there are studies showing that skill diversity is important, but not bio diversity. For example this meta-study[1] : "Support was found for the positive impact of task-related diversity on team performance. In contrast…