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Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by Throwaway8373 »

spywaregorilla wrote: post #193
Throwaway8373 wrote: post #183

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It is easy only to talk in abstract terms. Don't be a dick -- what does it mean? Nobody knows, unless they do. Some well intended people ended up in very bad sitatuations while always thinking they were not dicks.

Be kind, listen, and demonstrate that you're listening.

This is still very cheap :) Be kind in the sense of the bible? Well, then you'd have the have read, or at least be educated, in the bible.

If it was just so simple as to be a good listener. Then I think a lot more of the classic "nerds" would have hit it of hard with the ladies ;)

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by rthomas6 »

embeng4096 wrote: post #194
rthomas6 wrote: post #188

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So, to me, this implies women being more selective of partners than in the past accounts for some of the overall decrease, but not all.

Can you elaborate? This particular comment of yours reads to me as agreeing -- as in agreeing that selectivity accounts for some of the decrease in sex, but not all, which I think is what I stated. Your other comment in this overall thread gives me the impression that you actually disagree though, so I think I'm missing something and would appreciate more explanation.

No, I agree. My other comment was limited the context of talking about that data only (that 80 percent of women fight over 20% of the men on data sites), not your data. You have promiscuity rates separated by sex, and changes of them over time. The other comment doesn't, and only taking the other comment's data by itself isn't enough, imo, to draw any meaningful conclusions.

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by embeng4096 »

rthomas6 wrote: post #202
embeng4096 wrote: post #194

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Can you elaborate? This particular comment of yours reads to me as agreeing -- as in agreeing that selectivity accounts for some of the decrease in sex, but not all, which I think is what I stated. Your other comment in this overall thread gives me the impression that you actually disagree though, so I think I'm missing something and would appreciate more explanation.

No, I agree. My other comment was limited the context of talking about that data only (that 80 percent of women fight over 20% of the men on data sites), not your data. You have promiscuity rates separated by sex, and changes of them over time. The other comment doesn't, and only taking the other comment's data by itself isn't enough, imo, to draw any meaningful conclusions.

Ah, makes sense -- thanks for clarifying.

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by halo37253 »

hdjjhhvvhga wrote: post #161
Auracle wrote: post #149

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I know someone - a relative of my wife - with 3 young kids that has sex (more or less) daily. She wasn’t bragging when she told me. To be fair, she has a smoking body. The other half, not so much. My wife and I just have one 4 month old but we’re making an effort to have sex the days that we can. It’s not easy with a kid at this age! We maybe get one nap in the evening. After the baby goes to bed my wife usually need…

I guess it depends on the kids. Some of them cry more, involve more energy, wake up earlier. When going to bed you remember the morning pain and quickly evaluate the pleasure component. Moreover, both partners need to have equally high energy levels in order to do that, and this can be a challenge even in a relationship without kids. So respect to those who manage to do it daily with 3.

My oldest Child is in their teens.

And I do stuff with my kids every day.

Dad time is a everyday thing with my children.

Even if it is for only 20 minuets per child. Or hours.

Homework and spending time with family are very important for my kids.

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by spywaregorilla »

Throwaway8373 wrote: post #201
spywaregorilla wrote: post #193

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Be kind, listen, and demonstrate that you're listening.

This is still very cheap :) Be kind in the sense of the bible? Well, then you'd have the have read, or at least be educated, in the bible. If it was just so simple as to be a good listener. Then I think a lot more of the classic "nerds" would have hit it of hard with the ladies ;)

Nerds are, imo, stereotypically terrible listeners.

It's pretty difficult to fail to classify kind behavior imo, barring people with exceptionally poor empathy skills

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by newby »

abc_lisper wrote: post #99
beaconstudios wrote: post #32

Wow this thread is wild. My understanding is it's because nobody can afford their own place - either living with their parents or roommates.

Yep. Some 40% of people between the ages of 23-50 live with their parents in US(according to wsj)

Could you please provide some source? I find this really hard to believe. Quick googling led me to some articles about growing ratio of _young_ adults (16 - 23) living with their parents, nothing about adults.

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by javert »

bmarquez wrote: post #88
javert wrote: post #58

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What he said is true in rural America . In the religious areas, which is most of 'em. This is a divided country. You'd be shocked at how seriously people take religion and how it affects views on sex.

Having gone to private Christian schools when I was younger (in suburban America but not quite rural), I'm going to offer the anecdote that religious people are just as sexual as non-religious people. They just won't admit to it openly or on surveys.

I'm sorry, but there are tons of young people from religious or conservative families who wait until marriage to have sex and marry young, and/or don't begin their sexual exploration until well into college. Your anecdotal point notwithstanding. All human beings are equally sexual in terms of their drive and interest, but religion can and does alter psychology and behavior.

There are places where religion is common but isn't taken that seriously, and then there are places were it's common and it is taken very seriously. Sounds like your school was the former and that's fine. It doesn't preclude the existence of the latter.

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by halo37253 »

malfist wrote: post #171
halo37253 wrote: post #139

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Yet lets ignore the proven statistics showing woman avg higher number of sexual partners in their life than men.

And that somehow makes women sluts? Who cares how many sexual partners they have? That's their business, not yours.

I could care less. If someone wants to sleep around their entire life, so be it. But the idea the men are the ones that are more willing to sleep around was proven false years ago. Woman have always been more willing to sleep around than men.

Which is why articles like this always single out young males. Its not that they are unwilling to have sex. They simply just want to have a relationship with a single person.

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