Body Doubling
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#192There was a thread on Reddit recently asking what leisure time was like for people before radio, TV, and the Internet. Someone mentioned a memoir they'd read from the early 1900s and the part that stuck with them was how social everyone was. After work, people would go to friends houses, putter around town and catch up with neighbors, visit shops where they knew everyone, etc. I can't but think that so many of the ma…
This reminds me of a joke from comic Sebastian Maniscalco called Doorbell (it's on YouTube) about how people reacted to having someone ring their doorbell today vs 20 years ago. He talks about how 20 years ago we'd be excited by an unexpected guess ringing our doorbell versus today we'd be more incline to being upset. Really recommended giving the joke a gander for a good laugh.
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#193Earlier quoted context omitted.
Two years ago, my wife and I invited my parents to move into a home with us and our children. I expect to always be glad we did, but it has been challenging in ways we hadn't really anticipated. In particular, it requires a more conscious effort for my wife and I to have time to have conversations between just the two of us. The help with childcare is great as well as the extra hands for household chores. The biggest…
Perhaps go on mini-dates with your wife? Coffee shop, park, etc
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#194Earlier quoted context omitted.
There were idiots in the 50's crowing about how some day we wouldn't have to eat at all. I really wonder about the diet and favorite dishes are like for someone who thinks never eating is progress. And that's without even getting into the communal aspects of eating with a group.
You can enjoy eating, meal preparation, and the like and _also_ recognize how very, very, very money, time, and resource consuming it all is. If you could replace a typical home-cooked meal which cost $3->5 in materials and at _least_ half an hour in personal labor with a pill that costs $0.03->0.05 and can be produced in the thousands per hour, that's a significant win. And if you can build those pills from the bypr…
Also cramming 2000 calories into four or five pill sized spaces is practically violating the laws of physics, is it not?
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#195“Many people with ADHD find it easier to stay focused on housework, homework, bill paying, and other tasks when someone else is around to keep them company.” Not true for me! If anything the reverse is true! With my ADHD I also get a form of rejection sensitivity dysphoria, so worry I’m being judged or watched. Not with everything. Just somethings, and mostly my desk based work. I like silent rooms away from people.…
Same here, in fact I'm rather surprised to learn that this isn't the norm for people with ADHD, apparently. On a related note, my office is currently doing a sort of ad-hoc, informal hybrid work schedule, so some days of the week there's very few people in the office. On those days, I find I'm so much more productive just due to the fact that there's less commotion and fewer people talking. WFH was great for my produ…
In many ways the pandemic was the best thing that happened for me!
I got to work from home, and then transitioned to running my own consultancy from my home office!
I’m fortunate and have a nice home and work well with my wife.
At an office I used to find an empty meeting room and work on my own, and this was seen as anti social…
And I was like, so which is it?
Shut up and do you work, or chit chat in the office?
Apparently it all depends and the unspoken unwritten rules of social conduct in offices prove that companies are not families and culture is about who the majority like and nothing to do with do embracing diversity.
Anyway….
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#196Earlier quoted context omitted.
You can enjoy eating, meal preparation, and the like and _also_ recognize how very, very, very money, time, and resource consuming it all is. If you could replace a typical home-cooked meal which cost $3->5 in materials and at _least_ half an hour in personal labor with a pill that costs $0.03->0.05 and can be produced in the thousands per hour, that's a significant win. And if you can build those pills from the bypr…
The pitch was not that you could skip a meal when you were in a hurry, but skip all meals, every day, forever. Also cramming 2000 calories into four or five pill sized spaces is practically violating the laws of physics, is it not?
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#197There was a thread on Reddit recently asking what leisure time was like for people before radio, TV, and the Internet. Someone mentioned a memoir they'd read from the early 1900s and the part that stuck with them was how social everyone was. After work, people would go to friends houses, putter around town and catch up with neighbors, visit shops where they knew everyone, etc. I can't but think that so many of the ma…
Few things struck me on this topic in the last year: - both me and my in laws are buying estate and I found it curious how to both of us (and most friends too), cameras and alarms were priorities - leaving my old flat me and my SO realized we knew no one in the building - went back to where my grandma lived in Poland. Classic but beautiful (really) soviet style neighborhood with parks, swings, etc. In the 90s it was…
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#198I read about influencers who basically stream themselves while studying, seems to be a similar idea with more even participation (and less likelihood of becoming internet-rich).
I've thought about doing this before even if I have zero audience. The "threat" that someone could join the stream and see me slacking off on YouTube might be stressful but I imagine it could help me stay on task?
Don't underestimate the force of this, I reckon it's similar to precommitment (eg, announcing to all your friends that you're giving up smoking), for which there's evidence that it's an effective tool to drive behavioral change.
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#199Earlier quoted context omitted.
My teenage years were similar. Cells phones were a thing but relatively rare and texting was limited. Friends in HS would often enough just drop by. Nowadays, if you just stop by a friends house, it feels borderline rude or intruding. My hypothesis is that given the rise of everyone having always connected cell phones, texting, etc, that subconsciously we've all shifted to viewing our physical homes as our form of pr…
I wonder how much of the changed behavior comes from the less intrusive communication options having gotten much lower effort. Even calling someone unannounced is almost unthinkable except if it's an emergency. I think that's because it's so easy to just send a text message first to ask if it's convenient. In the past text messages weren't as common. Before that, I could have called for example before stopping by a f…
Since we are in HN, I feel obliged to ask: how do we fix this?
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This is also how I remember my childhood and even early teenage years. My friends would just pop over unannounced and ask me out to play or play sports or something. Also relatives and grandparents would do this occasionally since basically my whole extended family lived in the same village. I also feel like things would have continued the same way if it wasn't for everyone (including me) moving away to study, work,…
>I think it helps to think of our social environment as some kind of ecosystem that has evolved to fulfill various needs and shouldn't be messed with. The results will be similar to if you take a few species from biological ecosystems and just randomly put them together - the result is not going to look very pretty. This is just a real gem of an analogy.