I was forced to be a child star. It was never my dream or my idea

I would also like to invite him to try and see the positive sides of his experience. It shaped him into a man that has been a role model for millions of young men via Star Trek. It may not have been what he wanted, but I'm glad he ended up doing it.

I don't know what depression feels like, but if can tell you that watching Wil Wheaton play tabletop games has always left me with a better mood than I had before.

So thank you, Wil, for bringing joy into my life. Don't let bad parts of your past define who you are.

To me, your tabletop games have been more inspirational than your Star Trek work. Lesser men would have cancelled the show when they found out they have a dice curse. You not only didn't cancel the show, you gracefully continued playing because to you it was just as important that the others have fun than that you yourself have fun. You, sir, are a legend and an inspiration, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

I do love the sound of harpsichord though :) But getting one at home is much harder whereas electronic pianos with good weighted keys are cheap and don't take so much space.

What about not at all? The only thing they need to be good, not even best, is the studies that will enable them to work. Just help them if they're falling behind. Os support them if they seem to have a passion for something in particular. But otherwise, let them have a life.

I think ultimately the problem is that the child has the first-hand knowledge of their own experience, but not the mature perspective of age; and the adult has the mature perspective of age, but not the first-hand knowledge of the child's experience.

I have a toddler. Sometimes he knows he's tired needs to sleep; sometimes he needs to sleep but he refuses to accept that; sometimes he knows that he's not tired and won't be able to sleep.

I know that he often gets tired around a certain time, and that he often refuses to accept that he actually needs sleep.

So sometimes when he refuses sleep, I insist, and then he conks out immediately. I was right: my greater perspective as an adult was more accurate his immediate experience of wanting to stay awake.

But sometimes when he refuses to sleep, and I insist, he spends the next two hours tossing & turning and not being able to sleep. He was right: his personal experience of not being at all tired outweighed my greater perspective as a parent that he's normally tired at the time.

Neither one of us has enough information to make an informed decision on our own.

I think something similar happens with children. Children don't really know the potential reward of putting up with the grind of practicing for years, or the regret as an adult of missing out on those skills. But if it's excruciatingly painful, they certainly know it.

Adults know the potential reward of putting in the time, but they don't know the child's experience. So, when a child balks, is it because they're just facing the normal barrier of effort that everyone faces? Or are they really experiencing something excruciatingly painful? If it's the first and you push them, they'll be glad in the end. If it's the first and you don't push them, they'll regret it. If it's the second and you push them, they'll be resentful; if it's the second and you don't push them, everyone will be happier.

Neither the child nor the parents actually has all the information required to make an accurate decision.