Pray this diagnosis is not true and by some miracle you can be here longer. Pray your work leads to breakthroughs so your name is never forgotten. I pray if your passage is inevitable that your long lost loved ones will help you with safe and comforting passage, like I prayed someone was with my child.
I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left
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Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left
#162Almost exactly 18 months ago, my then 87 year old father, after feeling unwell and having some fluid problems with his lungs was diagnosed with stage-4 lung cancer. He turned down treatment and died at home a couple days before Christmas last year. I've come away from the experience very unhappy with the medical system. There's a long list, things that in any other industry would be prosecuted. The medical and hospic…
My experience of the hospice system is the opposite of yours. My dad was 73, passed away from cancer that took him way too soon as he was more active than people half his age. He swam, ran, worked out everyday. Was one of the most positive people in the world.
The hospice people were absolute angels as to how they handled him and his last months. Truly the most compassionate people work in these places and it was good to have at least that in his dying days.
I am sorry for your loss and the experience you've had with your dad.
Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left
#163Earlier quoted context omitted.
Don’t forget people also died much earlier for thousands of years. There is a great deal wrong with very high fat diets, the issue is there’s also a lot wrong with very high carb diets.
> Don’t forget people also died much earlier for thousands of years. Funnily enough not from obesity or heart disease. They died from violence, starvation, infections, plagues, travel, etc. Fats were not a cause.
Do some actual research. People regularly got heart attacks throughout recorded history even if dying earlier from other things was common.
The history of coronary syndromes and sudden death, and apoplexy or stroke, goes back to antiquity and has been thoroughly treated by historians and experts from many disciplines. By the beginning of the twentieth century, a heart attack with myocardial infarction was well known to cause death, but comprehension of it as a syndrome that one might survive was much delayed.
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Part of the historical delay and confusion in recognizing heart attacks apparently lay in the Greek word, kardialgia, which could mean either abdominal or precordial pain. Biblical and Talmudic references abound, however, about chest pain of a life-threatening nature, and Hippocrates mentions sudden death related to an episode of chest distress (Leibowitz 1970).
Leibowitz points out that the great Italian anatomist Morgagni failed to tie it all together, but nevertheless clearly described in 1761 the late pathology found in survivors of myocardial infarction in his well-known dictum: “The force of the heart decreases so much more in proportion as the greater number of its parts becomes tendonous instead of being fleshy” (ibid., 4). http://www.epi.umn.edu/cvdepi/essay/history-of-heart-attack-...
Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left
#164Earlier quoted context omitted.
We also have a lot of data on ways to reduce cancer before it happens. Reduce obesity. Reduce pollution. Etc. Yet we really aren't doing an awful lot about those things. Imagine for example if we had an obesity tax - everyone obese must pay 30% of their earnings into a Medicare fund. Sure it would be unpopular, but obesity would very quickly be solved, and cancer rates would plummet.
That will probably do nothing for obesity rates except fleece obese people. I’d be more interested in seeing appetite drugs like semaglutide become cheap and easy to get, something that helps instead of buying into punitive measures for absolutely everything.
Exactly. There needs to be a reward system for healthy initiatives, not a punitive approach for unsuccessful accomplishments.
Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left
#165Two very personal experiences to relate. --- My father died 7 weeks after he was diagnosed with liver cancer - 11 days past his 62nd birthday. Prior to the diagnosis, he was going to take early retirement at 62 and travel with my mother. He had lots of other plans for post-retirement that he never got to realize. --- A close friend of mine died of heart cancer (well, technically, he died from complications of having…
Did your dad drink? I ask because my dad died of the same (although they never did find the origin other than liver) and he was not a drinker.
Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left
#166Earlier quoted context omitted.
I'm similar. You might try swimming if it is practical for you, it has made a world of difference for me. It is close to a perfectly balanced exercise, involving nearly all muscles, low impact, cardio and breath control, and above all it is fun (at least for me and a significant percentage of people).
I'm a super bad swimmer and my skin is hypersensitive to chlorine but this sounds like it is worth investigating anyway, thank you!
See if there are any saltwater pools next to you, they still need chlorine, but it looks like the chlorine effect is gentler.
Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left
#167Earlier quoted context omitted.
No joke :/. My cousin recently passed from Hodgkin's Lymphoma- they told her that the vast majority of patients have at least five years, many of whom have at least ten. That was a little over two years ago.
Gah that sucks. The randomness of it all is maddening. I buried an uncle a few months ago, he had a very nasty case of cancer and was in so much pain that we were all so grateful that at least here in NL there was the option to throw in the towel. He was a super nice man and I regret not having more contact with him in my life (my family is rather fragmented). But so much suffering is just too much to inflict on anyb…
Yep. The randomness. And the helplessness of others (speaking as the relative of the cancer patient). Its just a terrible feeling all around.
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#168Earlier quoted context omitted.
10 Simple Rules for a Supportive Lab Environment: https://direct.mit.edu/jocn/article/35/1/44/113591/10-Simple... > These rules were written and voted on collaboratively, by the students and mentees of Professor Mark Stokes, who inspired this piece.
These are rules that are good for any team, not just for academic labs. 1. Encourage Critique But Not Competition 2. Model “Failure” and Celebrate Honesty 3. Be Approachable 4. Facilitate Communication and Ensure There Are Minimal Barriers to Asking Questions 5. A Supportive Lab Is a Social Lab 6. Give Timely (and Constructive) Feedback 7. Respect Others' Time and Expertise 8. Have Career Conversations That Cover Bot…
This will live on forever.
I'll be doing my part.
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#169Earlier quoted context omitted.
I can only hope to be lucky enough to know when I'm going to for. Having a few days or months to say goodbye etc. would be great.
But that just elongates the pain for everyone involved (apologies for my English) I prefer to go in a snap.
That's a good point though.
Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left
#170Almost exactly 18 months ago, my then 87 year old father, after feeling unwell and having some fluid problems with his lungs was diagnosed with stage-4 lung cancer. He turned down treatment and died at home a couple days before Christmas last year. I've come away from the experience very unhappy with the medical system. There's a long list, things that in any other industry would be prosecuted. The medical and hospic…
My experience of the hospice system is the opposite of yours. My dad was 73, passed away from cancer that took him way too soon as he was more active than people half his age. He swam, ran, worked out everyday. Was one of the most positive people in the world. The hospice people were absolute angels as to how they handled him and his last months. Truly the most compassionate people work in these places and it was goo…
Thanks, I appreciate it, and am happy to hear that your own experience was far more positive than our own.
I take comfort that my father's wishes were to spend his final few months at home and die there. It took a herculean effort on behalf of all of us to pull it off, pulling 24 hour bedside shifts for months took a toll. But we all have zero regrets about it, and despite the grief, was a very beautiful way to honor and support him.