1-on-1 meeting questions

Post by artsyca » Sun, Feb 16, 2020, 9:55 PM UTC

scarface74 wrote: post #37

artsyca wrote: post #28

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The very idea that there are two ends is your fallacy bro you are already putting yourself in the magnanimous role of giving something A 1:1 is inherently a meeting of minds where there is no power imbalance and genuine trust can develop The way you make it sound is like the CIA giving mandatory lie detector tests where one person is strapped to a chair and the other is taking notes I'm calling false corporate bullsh…

There is always a power imbalance between a subordinate and a manager. There is no “genuine trust” with a manager. If your manager was told that their were imminent layoffs and they were told not to tell you, do you think they would? Would you tell your manager that you are hoping to learn all you can to get a better paying job in a year?

Post by KKKKkkkk1 » Sun, Feb 16, 2020, 10:15 PM UTC

Post by kaens » Sun, Feb 16, 2020, 10:24 PM UTC

tbabb wrote: post #156

kaens wrote: post #110

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> Employment is not a boss->servant relationship It is, for the vast majority of employed people. > it's a relationship where both parties gain something. For the vast majority of employed people, what they gain is the ability to continue to afford food and shelter. Most jobs do not afford the economic reality necessary to allow the employee a position of being able to afford to bargain as anything approaching an equ…

If your boss is taking the time to give you a 1-on-1, then there is an opportunity for both sides to listen to each other. If you have problems/complaints and you never say anything about them, then don't be surprised if they never change. If there is a 1-on-1 meeting happening, then a communication channel is open. I suppose you can choose to cynically shut it again, but if you make that choice, then don't be surpri…

Post by sabas123 » Sun, Feb 16, 2020, 10:52 PM UTC

Forge36 wrote: post #157

huhtenberg wrote: post #144

> How are your parents/grandparents? "Grandparents are dead. Parents are divorced. Father is a roaring alcoholic, mother is on a death bed with cancer. Also they are both A-grade assholes that made my childhood miserable." Really sets the mood for the rest of the interview, doesn't it? In other words, stay the hell away from any personal questions.

Thank you for your honesty. It sounds like you aren't close with them. There is nothing wrong with that. Do you have anyone you are close with to talk about things? Is there anything going on in your personal life you need to deal with which may be impacting your work? IE: I care about more than just the work you do, I care about you. I'd like you to be happy and know more about your life to ensure when you turn into…

Post by octodog » Sun, Feb 16, 2020, 11:14 PM UTC

ken wrote: post #135

koonsolo wrote: post #73

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What a strange, helpless way to look at the world. Employment is not a boss->servant relationship, it's a relationship where both parties gain something. You offer a service, and they pay for that. End of story. They act out? Then you find someone else who needs your services. As a programmer myself, I'm in this great position where there is a shortage of good developers, and plenty of companies searching for good de…

You are fortunate that the problems with modern software shops happen to align with the types of problems you can deal with. For example, there aren't plenty of companies with quiet offices searching for developers. When I tell my manager "The noise in this new open floorplan office is killing my productivity", they say "OK, well, that's not going to change", and then we spend the rest of the hour rearranging deck ch…