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Re: 1-on-1 meeting questions

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Post by biztos »

RotaryTelephone wrote: post #63

My 1on1's at a 100k+ international corporation always went like this: Manager: so how's it going? Me: great Manager: any issues? anything you want to discuss? Me: everything is fantastic! I'm very happy with my job :D Manager: cool cool... well let's do this again next month. Me: yay! I don't want someone in a similar situation like I was to get inspired by lists like these and go into their next 1on1 wrecking havoc…

I use my weekly 1:1 to brainstorm, sometimes to vent, and to discuss anything on the near horizon that affects my job, my pay, or life in MegaCorp generally.

I do not use it to rock the boat. Advice to younger employees: if you want to rock the boat, do it when your manager is not taking notes. :-)

(And I have a really good manager, so not assuming any malice anywhere.)

Re: 1-on-1 meeting questions

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Post by nonbirithm »

harikb wrote: post #100
divbzero wrote: post #70

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Agreed with parent to take 1 on 1’s lightly as just an avenue of conversation. If there is an adjustment you’d like to see, try to suggest it constructively and you don’t have to wait for a 1 on 1 to do so. That said, the “big list” here is directed towards managers and, for a manager, picking out one of these questions now and then as a conversation starter could uncover issues or opportunities that you could addres…

If my manager asked me all these questions every 1-on-1, I would be always feel unprepared and would shun future 1-1s. Sure one or two, to get the conversation going is ok.

The last thing I'd want is for 1-on-1's to start feeling like open-ended CS interviews where you know the question they just asked is one they pulled from a list verbatim and they just want a good enough answer from you.

I'd rather have the meeting feel like a conversation with direction and not a questionnaire.

Re: 1-on-1 meeting questions

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Post by daeken »

JMTQp8lwXL wrote: post #137
anonred wrote: post #120

Questions aside, I honestly thought the steps to submit a new question was satire... Contributing 1. Fork it 2. Run npm install 3. Add your resource to questions.json 4. Run node index to update README.md with your changes 5. Create your feature branch (git checkout -b my-new-feature) 6. Commit your changes (git commit -am "Add some feature") 7. Push to the branch (git push origin my-new-feature) 8. Create new Pull R…

If they ever make a website for the collected data, consuming JSON is less brittle than parsing a README file.

It's Markdown, not just "a README file". It's designed to be easy to edit by hand and easy to parse; there's literally nothing at all gained by using the JSON file that they have. At all.

Re: 1-on-1 meeting questions

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Post by huhtenberg »

> How are your parents/grandparents?

"Grandparents are dead. Parents are divorced. Father is a roaring alcoholic, mother is on a death bed with cancer. Also they are both A-grade assholes that made my childhood miserable."

Really sets the mood for the rest of the interview, doesn't it? In other words, stay the hell away from any personal questions.

Re: 1-on-1 meeting questions

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Post by joshuamorton »

stephc_int13 wrote: post #48
hk__2 wrote: post #33

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> As a manager, I never felt the need to bother anyone with 1:1 meetings. How do you collect feedback then?

Talking with people in an informal way, over lunch, work meetings (brainstorm) and direct day-to-day conversations.

So you make an effort to take time out of your day for informal, one on one conversations with members of your team? Over lunch, and directly in passing?

Re: 1-on-1 meeting questions

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Post by HeWhoLurksLate »

A_No_Name_Mouse wrote: post #133
kaens wrote: post #110

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> Employment is not a boss->servant relationship It is, for the vast majority of employed people. > it's a relationship where both parties gain something. For the vast majority of employed people, what they gain is the ability to continue to afford food and shelter. Most jobs do not afford the economic reality necessary to allow the employee a position of being able to afford to bargain as anything approaching an equ…

> It is, for the vast majority of employed people. True. But with that sort of job you probably won't have regular 1-on-1's. You just get told to flip more hamburgers. And it also depends on your own attitude what kind of relationship your establish with your manager.

And whether or not you have similar interests outside of work.

Re: 1-on-1 meeting questions

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Post by dvfjsdhgfv »

scarface74 wrote: post #111
dvfjsdhgfv wrote: post #50

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Of course there is no trust, and this lack of trust is pouring from all these questions. Personally I encourage the people who report to me to always come to me with any issues they may have and never wait until a 1 on 1.

You can’t come to your manager at anytime when you have an issue. It’s not always because of lack of trust. They are busy managing . I sometimes need to schedule a meeting with my manager to go over a technical proposal and his schedule is busy all day with meetings. That’s not meant to be negative. Also, I’m at a level now that I need to come to a manager with both problems and proposed solutions.

Of course, but in my case it's as simple as sending an e-mail "Could we talk at your earliest convenience?" Unless of course the issue is not really important - in that case it can wait for 1:1.

Re: 1-on-1 meeting questions

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Post by HeWhoLurksLate »

tlb wrote: post #106
rdiddly wrote: post #77

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Yeah or if, as non-technical people, bad and good are indistinguishable to them!

Rule #1: Do not work at a company that can’t appreciate how good you are.

Rule #2: Do not work at a company that can't appreciate or value how good you can become.

Rule #3: While working, make every effort to learn new things and improve yourself.

Re: 1-on-1 meeting questions

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Post by aaron-santos »

yankit wrote: post #97

Can someone recommend tools, hacks or techniques they use to run a perfect one-on-one meeting (tools like https://PullPanda.com , https://Gitalytics.com or https://valycs.com )?

I'd recommend Manager Tools. They have a whole set of resources for 1 on 1s. https://www.manager-tools.com/map-universe/one-ones
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