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Post by bretthoerner »

JeffL wrote: post #148
time_management wrote: post #137

Earlier quoted context omitted.

People are not sex-crazed, ravenous beasts out to rape each other to death the instant the gate drops. Not all, but I'm just going to say that, if I had kids, I wouldn't let them anywhere near you. Why would anyone want to control such a joyous thing? Casual sex does lasting emotional harm to most people who participate. Stop trying to sell it as joyous just because it would suit you better if college freshmen fell m…

Casual sex does lasting emotional harm to most people who participate. Is there any evidence of this not coming from religious propaganda?

Seriously, what a creepy sentiment.

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Post by DanielBMarkham »

time_management:

Find somebody that is your best friend and turns you on both physically and emotionally. This person should also enhance your creativity and productivity. The relationship should make you feel freer, not like a prisoner.

After that, then you can start learning about relationships. It'll be hard work in which you put the other person's interests first and spend the time working to love them. (Yes, sometimes loving somebody requires effort. It's not like in the movies) Getting to a good understanding should take about -- 50 years or so.

Let us know when you've reached some conclusions.

I'm of the opinion that men and women are wired differently and that the struggle to nurture a relationship between these two different worldviews is what causes both sexes to mature as they grow older.

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Post by jhancock »

time_management wrote: post #100
ahoyhere wrote: post #92

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> Seriously, do you want to marry someone who might cheat because your dick is not as wide as that of a hookup who happened to show up at the college reunion? Why are you so afraid of women?

Why do you think I'm "afraid of women"? The fact is that, if a woman's had a lot of casual sex, she's developed a taste for variety and you have no hope of being her ideal man. When you're in bed with her, she's wishing you had Biff's abs, Jethro's penis girth, and the "roughness" of that club promoter whose name she's forgotten. So she's likely to cheat after a while in search of those traits, and even if she doesn'…

"The fact is that, if a woman's had a lot of casual sex, she's developed a taste for variety and you have no hope of being her ideal man."

No, this is not a fact. Perhaps the real problem here is you don't know a whole lot about women. I'm not trying to be rude to you. Most women, regardless of sexual history, DO NOT marry and stay with a man for the same reasons as a man marries and stays with a woman.

Here is a fact: A woman can have many partners, search what feels to her a lifetime, find a man, fall in love and never, ever in her mind compare you with another man.

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Post by time_management »

JeffL wrote: post #148
time_management wrote: post #137

Earlier quoted context omitted.

People are not sex-crazed, ravenous beasts out to rape each other to death the instant the gate drops. Not all, but I'm just going to say that, if I had kids, I wouldn't let them anywhere near you. Why would anyone want to control such a joyous thing? Casual sex does lasting emotional harm to most people who participate. Stop trying to sell it as joyous just because it would suit you better if college freshmen fell m…

Casual sex does lasting emotional harm to most people who participate. Is there any evidence of this not coming from religious propaganda?

Start here: http://www.crosswalk.com/news/commentary/11601061/

It's the first cite I found, but if that's not religion-neutral enough for you, I can find plenty more.

Sex causes the release of hormones such as oxytocin. Most people aren't capable, especially when young, of having sex with someone, never seeing that person again, and being okay with the experience.

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Post by menloparkbum »

time_management wrote: post #154
JeffL wrote: post #148

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Casual sex does lasting emotional harm to most people who participate. Is there any evidence of this not coming from religious propaganda?

Start here: http://www.crosswalk.com/news/commentary/11601061/ It's the first cite I found, but if that's not religion-neutral enough for you, I can find plenty more. Sex causes the release of hormones such as oxytocin. Most people aren't capable, especially when young, of having sex with someone, never seeing that person again, and being okay with the experience.

if that's not religion-neutral enough for you

crosswalk.com - "Your gateway to the bible and christian resources"

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Post by ahoyhere »

time_management wrote: post #146
ahoyhere wrote: post #134

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I had good, consexual sex with another teenager. And unlike the other young people on the forum, I read a lot of scientific books, so I was able to counter such idiotic, voodoo-type teenaged beliefs such as "stretched out" vaginas.

You lost your virginity at 14, and you admit this in public? I'm shocked. I honestly don't know what to say to that. I hope that either you or Biff tipped the overnight guy at the gas station. Cleaning those restrooms is not a fun job.

Way to show off those classy moral legs of yours, dude.

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Post by time_management »

jhancock wrote: post #153
time_management wrote: post #100

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Why do you think I'm "afraid of women"? The fact is that, if a woman's had a lot of casual sex, she's developed a taste for variety and you have no hope of being her ideal man. When you're in bed with her, she's wishing you had Biff's abs, Jethro's penis girth, and the "roughness" of that club promoter whose name she's forgotten. So she's likely to cheat after a while in search of those traits, and even if she doesn'…

"The fact is that, if a woman's had a lot of casual sex, she's developed a taste for variety and you have no hope of being her ideal man." No, this is not a fact. Perhaps the real problem here is you don't know a whole lot about women. I'm not trying to be rude to you. Most women, regardless of sexual history, DO NOT marry and stay with a man for the same reasons as a man marries and stays with a woman. Here is a fac…

You may be right-- you're older and more experienced than I am-- but I wouldn't be inclined to take the risk. All considered, I don't think I could marry a woman with a history of casual sex when there might be someone out there who is just as good and doesn't have that kind of history.

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Post by diN0bot »

jhancock wrote: post #153
time_management wrote: post #100

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Why do you think I'm "afraid of women"? The fact is that, if a woman's had a lot of casual sex, she's developed a taste for variety and you have no hope of being her ideal man. When you're in bed with her, she's wishing you had Biff's abs, Jethro's penis girth, and the "roughness" of that club promoter whose name she's forgotten. So she's likely to cheat after a while in search of those traits, and even if she doesn'…

"The fact is that, if a woman's had a lot of casual sex, she's developed a taste for variety and you have no hope of being her ideal man." No, this is not a fact. Perhaps the real problem here is you don't know a whole lot about women. I'm not trying to be rude to you. Most women, regardless of sexual history, DO NOT marry and stay with a man for the same reasons as a man marries and stays with a woman. Here is a fac…

flagged bc your formatting ruins this whole discussion because now i have to horizontally scroll. even if your formatting is hn's fault not yours. if enough people flag, then maybe this comment will disappear.

which is a shame, because i agree with your comment completely, quoted below:

No, this is not a fact. Perhaps the real problem here is you don't know a whole lot about women. I'm not trying to be rude to you. Most women, regardless of sexual history, DO NOT marry and stay with a man for the same reasons as a man marries and stays with a woman.

Here is a fact: A woman can have many partners, search what feels to her a lifetime, find a man, fall in love and never, ever in her mind compare you with another man.

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Post by sho »

time_management wrote: post #144
sho wrote: post #135

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So, if no man can satisfy her, why are you worried? She'll be back if you turn out to be the best for her, after all. Just sounds like your whole strategy for winning the beautiful babies is to deny them the information they need to make an informed decision.

A woman who can't be satisfied by one man is not going to "settle" for the best guy out of N available. She's going to date one and fuck the others on the side. Just sounds like your whole strategy for winning the beautiful babies is to deny them the information they need to make an informed decision. No. I think women would she able to make informed decisions, but I also think they ought to be ladylike, resolute, an…

But you have no evidence for any of this. It's just your personal theory. To me at least, it sounds highly dubious. In my experience most people do not act like that.

Casual sex does not necessarily make people emotionally unstable. Alpha males do not need to become rapists. Nothing you say makes sense. And what on earth do you mean by "ladylike"? They are ladies, by definition they act ladylike.

You live in a very strange world my friend.

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Post by sho »

menloparkbum wrote: post #155
time_management wrote: post #154

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Start here: http://www.crosswalk.com/news/commentary/11601061/ It's the first cite I found, but if that's not religion-neutral enough for you, I can find plenty more. Sex causes the release of hormones such as oxytocin. Most people aren't capable, especially when young, of having sex with someone, never seeing that person again, and being okay with the experience.

if that's not religion-neutral enough for you crosswalk.com - "Your gateway to the bible and christian resources"

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