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What if finding a hobby is the meaning of life?
Could be, but I find a hobby works best when one already has the meaning of life and just needs to cooldown from job. Again just my opinion.
I joined the Orthodox Church in my 40s. I wish I would have known about it when I was younger, especially in my 30s, with my young family. The benefits that come from daily spiritual devotion both individually and a family, as well as the benefits that come from being part of a faithful community are impossible to list. Is it all easy and is it all benefits? Of course not. But centering my life around God through dai…
I really want to become an Orthodox Christian but feel like I would struggle with the whole "believing in God" thing. Should I still try it? Is there any way that I could "come to believe in God" in time?
The door is always open. Please check out: https://www.provingislam.com/
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If you have a hard time believing in God, then why limit yourself to just Christianity? Islam is ideal for exploring spiritualism through structure and discipline, Hinduism and Buddhism are great to explore spirituality from a psychological plane. This might offend some but while self-studying these religions, I found Christianity to be quite underwhelming, spiritually. In fact, if it wasn't for the writings of Desmo…
I don't know. I guess I'd prefer to believe in a religion where I'd fit in culturally.
I'm in my early 40s, I can't really think of anything, maybe because it's too close to realize what mistakes I might have made, and I don't really believe in that kind of retrospection generally. FWIW, if you are in a position where you could potentially start a family (and want to some day), consider doing it in your early 30s (or earlier), there are a lot of things that get tougher as you get older. I don't regret…
> if you are in a position where you could potentially start a family I'm in my 30s, and this seems to be the trickiest part that people older than me — sorry — seem to want to just pave over. House prices are bananas. Trump, COVID, Russia have erased years of investment gains. Student loans are a constant tax on my finances (that I'm almost free of… …soon…). Wage growth has been stagnant (my career has seen ~4.7% Yo…
I'm sorry, what asset classes did you invest in? Because Trump and the Covid stimulus were both very beneficial for my investments. Sure, the market has taken a beating of late but it most definitely has not erased years of gains.
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> if you are in a position where you could potentially start a family I'm in my 30s, and this seems to be the trickiest part that people older than me — sorry — seem to want to just pave over. House prices are bananas. Trump, COVID, Russia have erased years of investment gains. Student loans are a constant tax on my finances (that I'm almost free of… …soon…). Wage growth has been stagnant (my career has seen ~4.7% Yo…
Here's what I would tell my 35 year old self. If you try to get financially better off, in seven years you'll probably be only slightly better off if at all, and you won't have kids. At that point you probably can't. If you have kids at 35, you may very well go bankrupt. It will be off your credit in seven years, and you'll have a seven year old. The second option will be happier (if you want kids).
That seems rather pessimistic. You don't expect any career progression or wealth accumulation in seven years?
I wish I had known the truth about romantic relationships. Would have saved me a lot of trouble: - Women are not all the same. Men are not all the same. There is no single approach. What works for your friend won't necessarily work for you, because you're different people and thus after different things. - "pick up lines" and pick-up-artist techniques and all that kind of bullshit are just that: bullshit. At best you…
This is rooted in reality and Humility.
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Here's what I would tell my 35 year old self. If you try to get financially better off, in seven years you'll probably be only slightly better off if at all, and you won't have kids. At that point you probably can't. If you have kids at 35, you may very well go bankrupt. It will be off your credit in seven years, and you'll have a seven year old. The second option will be happier (if you want kids).
> in seven years you'll probably be only slightly better off if at all That seems rather pessimistic. You don't expect any career progression or wealth accumulation in seven years?
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> I would guess that late twenties are the ideal time to have kids. In hindsight, I'm thinking teenage years. For all practical purposes your days are wasted anyway, so you may as well waste it enjoying your kids. They'll be much more independent by the time you're deemed old enough to begin participating in society. You are also more likely to have a larger community of people in the household at that age to help ra…
I think it wouldn't be terrible to have kids as a teen - provided you have a supportive family and partner. Of course, I've never tried it for myself, but that's my general sense. If my children have kids young I won't be distraught and will provide as much help as possible - expecting it to be quite a lot for the first 5-10 years.
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cant you elaborate on "buy assets"? stocks, real estate, all the above, something else?
Live in a non recourse state And buy real estate with leverage. heads you win big tails you walk away with fixed losses
If someone told me that 10 years ago, I might have made different life choices.
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> in seven years you'll probably be only slightly better off if at all That seems rather pessimistic. You don't expect any career progression or wealth accumulation in seven years?
Watching friends struggle and work hard while making little progress for years as job after job rejects them for being overqualified or for not already having 30 years of experience tells me this is a reasonable expectation. If there was a ladder up, it's been conclusively kicked down. Some of them get lucky with a tech job and, if all goes well from here, might retire before 80.
I really don't think there are a lot of people on HN who are stuck in dead end jobs with no growth.
And as harsh as it may sound, if someone can't retire before 80 despite working a tech job, I'm inclined to think they're just bad with money.