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The amount of energy needed to transmit via a gravitational wave is INSANE. It would involve very rapidly accelerating and decelerating a black hole / neutron star. While it might be possible to do this, it's not within the realm of something we could accomplish without several orders of magnitude technology improvements, and possibly may not be physically possible at all (moving object that heavy that quickly might…
Even if it were possible, what sort of crazy alien would it take to burn 3 solar masses of negentropy to basically run a ping, compared to the amount of data that could be transmitted with electromagnetic waves with 3 solar masses of negentropy? It's literally dozens of orders of magnitude in difference. Any aliens that are that bad at engineering probably aren't going to grow to the point that they can shake neutron…
Based on what level of civilization you are. Rubbing two black holes in for a ping, might be the same as rubbing two stones for a spark. Advanced civilization go really advanced, to a point their activities would be undetectable to us or would appear to us the nature of reality itself.