'Wish to become'? WTF. You can't become someone. Just be.
If a younger person trains and practice and puts in a ton of early mornings and late nights, they can become an Olympian. If they sit around and do nothing, they can't.
Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become
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#132Oh man this is such a perfect example of productivity porn. Every action you take isn’t a vote for the type of person you wish to become, it is a vote taken by the person you are. I hate this mindset of “I am constantly working towards becoming someone else”. When do we spend time as the person we are? When do we enjoy the fruits of our labor? I feel like some people who take this mindset see their lives as being two…
I view life as a I do my farm. There is always work to do to make it produce; there are times of intense work and times where I enjoy just watching the chickens…not that I don’t enjoy the intense work too; but sometimes I don’t as well but it must be done. I am always looking to do things better and more efficiently…so over time the farm does produce more, it does get better, it is not the same farm as it was a year…
Ah, this is so well said, thank you. It's true, life is about cultivating yourself, growing relationships, nurturing knowledge and skills over time, watering the garden, taking out the weeds, feeding the animals, planting trees.
And I suppose I agree with the posted article's title, that every action is an investment of energy into developing better selves, others, the surrounding environment as an interconnected living system.
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#135I've always thought that trying to optimize life is the ultimate denial. In golf we have these people who spend hours on the range optimizing their swing but they seldom play a round because of course their score is never as "optimized" and that make them feel bad. They can max out point data but never in a way that changes the aggregate, which based on the invested effort turned into a feeling of defeat. Life is mos…
Local maxima
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#136What are these votes author says he's casting ?
Let’s see.. work, work, work, work, work.
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#137Earlier quoted context omitted.
I believe it's more along the lines of "I'm having a conversation with you today because I value and care about you and our friendship etc; I want to be the kind of person that shows up for others and leaves people I interact with in a better place/mood/etc." Instead of being the person not aware of their moods and carrying resentment over the smallest slights so they end up bitching about it to everyone. If one neve…
Some people are so driven towards being productive that they think their time is worth more than others. Why should I waste my day taking to you when I could be working and being more productive? Eventually all your relationships, friends family etc are tied down to how much money you will be making with that time as it could be better spent working, making money . So sure every choice is a vote for an improved you.…
Yes, I thought this way in my early twenties, and after that phase I learned to identify those (mutable) traits in others as hollow and immature. Often characterized by how arbitrarily they approach moments in life. Counter to this, I make a very deliberate effort to spend as much time as I feasibly can with specific people for no particular reason other than I enjoy their company and I want them to similarly feel like it's a relationship worth having around longer, because that's inherently virtuous. The activity could be arbitrary or specific. If it's specific, then I might choose the person specifically for it, but if the person is specific, then the activity arbitrarily serves the nature of spending time with the person. I'm never arbitrarily spending time with arbitrary people for a specific outcome though.
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#138Why is this getting upvoted? Even if you find the headline thought provoking, the article puts no effort into sharing it or exploring it. It’s just a list of self-enrichment things the OP is proud of having done lately. This is effectively just resume spam.
Exactly.
This is not even worthy of being called an "article" : just some self-promotion thrown without any effort.
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#139Ok, so let's see here. 1. Got a meaningless certificate. Also expanded his "wildly successful business leaders" network. 2. Added people to a project in order to get it completed faster. (The ghost of Fred Brooks is making it hard to type here now.) 3. Proposed re-orging Red Hat engineering. 4. Had a meeting. 5. Wrote strategy doccies. 6. Mentoring. (1 out of 7 isn't bad.) 7. Had a meeting about advertising copy. I'm…
Fred Brooks is still around I believe
Rolling, without a grave?
Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become
#140Oh man this is such a perfect example of productivity porn. Every action you take isn’t a vote for the type of person you wish to become, it is a vote taken by the person you are. I hate this mindset of “I am constantly working towards becoming someone else”. When do we spend time as the person we are? When do we enjoy the fruits of our labor? I feel like some people who take this mindset see their lives as being two…
The people who believe in these two-phase mentality rarely end up retiring early. They don't know how to relax. If you derive meaning from work and the accumulation of wealth, what do you do after you reach your happy number?
... and do you feel anxious not knowing if you will reach that number ?