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Behavior like grabbing a strangers crotch from behind and disappearing before she has a chance to turn around "works"? No, it most certainly does not. There is a big difference between being confident and showing leadership, and groping strangers in public. And the "agressive, alpha male" (which is a term that I hate, by the way) persona doesn't work for everyone, either. I know plenty of women for whom that's a huge…
> At a hacker conference, people are generally more interested in talking about hacking and less about flirting; Even if I were trying to pick someone up at a conference, I'd talk about hacking, engage their interests, ask them what they are working on, etc. Intellectual flattery. Physically, I'd be cool. If, after some time, the woman initiated some innocuous physical contact (shoulder & arm touching, for example),…
"If, after some time, the woman initiated some innocuous physical contact (shoulder & arm touching, for example), I would not reciprocate in kind. No, I would reciprocate with more platonic interest. This might be slightly disappointing at first, but it would build trust. Physical reciprocity only later, like a long-delayed echo."
At which point she would think you aren't interested in her and then move on mentally and physically to someone else.