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I rebooted my social life

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Re: I rebooted my social life

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Post by welder »

altmanaltman wrote: post #7
welder wrote: post #5

> Hanging out with other humans is good – and if you can’t find a community… you can always build your own. I did just that, and built https://wonderful.dev It's based around jobs for devs, but right now it's just a place to chat about tech.

They literally said that online communities wasn't what they were talking about though. > And this was when I finally realised something that should have been obvious. I had a small group of close friends who were spread across the country. I had a wider group of friends and acquaintances who I’d talk to online. > But what I lacked was a community.

If I have an in-person community that's non-tech it's enough for me to only have an online tech community. That's how it was for me growing up, and it would be great to have that again.

Re: I rebooted my social life

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Post by ctln »

Congrats OP, sounds super excited for his new social life.

I live overseas and I’m very lonely. I’ve been told to join a group or club related to my interests so I can meet new people and make friends, but I can’t. It doesn’t feel natural to me to go for friend-hunting. And I’m very tired of meaningless, superficial connections and conversations I’ve had with most of the people from my surroundings. I feel my only friends are the ones I did at school. After that period of my life, people -or even me- start to disappear.

But with my friends from school, we can be without seeing each other for years and it’s always so easy and rewarding to catch up. I wish I’ve spent more time with them before moving :,(

Re: I rebooted my social life

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Post by altmanaltman »

welder wrote: post #11
altmanaltman wrote: post #7

Earlier quoted context omitted.

They literally said that online communities wasn't what they were talking about though. > And this was when I finally realised something that should have been obvious. I had a small group of close friends who were spread across the country. I had a wider group of friends and acquaintances who I’d talk to online. > But what I lacked was a community.

If I have an in-person community that's non-tech it's enough for me to only have an online tech community. That's how it was for me growing up, and it would be great to have that again.

yeah but it isn't about what you want. Ofc you like the idea, you built the damn thing. But the author of the post (which you replied/advertised to) explictly talked against this kind of thing. It's like a Budweiser ad on a mosque

Re: I rebooted my social life

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Post by squigz »

altmanaltman wrote: post #9
littlecranky67 wrote: post #4

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Whats wrong with Dan Brown if you don't mind me asking?

> The critics said his writing was clumsy, ungrammatical, repetitive and repetitive. They said it was full of unnecessary tautology. They said his prose was swamped in a sea of mixed metaphors. For some reason they found something funny in sentences such as “His eyes went white, like a shark about to attack.” They even say my books are packed with banal and superfluous description, thought the 5ft 9in man. He particu…

So he just writes poorly and people are angy he still got rich because people like his books?

I feel like including him in a list next to Hitler is a bit... much.

Re: I rebooted my social life

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Post by altmanaltman »

squigz wrote: post #15
altmanaltman wrote: post #9

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> The critics said his writing was clumsy, ungrammatical, repetitive and repetitive. They said it was full of unnecessary tautology. They said his prose was swamped in a sea of mixed metaphors. For some reason they found something funny in sentences such as “His eyes went white, like a shark about to attack.” They even say my books are packed with banal and superfluous description, thought the 5ft 9in man. He particu…

So he just writes poorly and people are angy he still got rich because people like his books? I feel like including him in a list next to Hitler is a bit... much.

I think the issue is that, for a moment, people legit thought of him as a good writer/his books having actual research etc. Then he got too popular and people started ripping his work apart because they got tired of hearing how good his books were etc. It's a pretty normal cycle for a pop author.

As for comparing him to Hitler, people gonna be people.

Re: I rebooted my social life

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Post by grunder_advice »

What if you have a community but it's boring and uninspiring? It's always the same shit, STEM nerds, who can only talk shop, tech, video games, sports and bitcoin/crypto/libertarianism/ancap stuff. I mean, I've moved like 3 times in the span of 7 years and every time I end up in the same kind of community. Also, no women. :(

Re: I rebooted my social life

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Post by aster0id »

I had a similar problem this year after having moved to a new country, working a remote job and separated from my partner. Having had a terrible social life since I was a kid, I knew it in my bones that I'd have to find myself new friends or else. So I did - I renewed my relationship with old friends, joined a book club (was a big reader as a kid), and my dog helped me make friends at the dog park.

I find it interesting that I've thought about the exact social mechanics of making friends before as well - low stakes in person common context where you meet on a regular basis is key.

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