I rebooted my social life
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I rebooted my social life
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#2My partner and I were discussing our need for “third spaces” this week. We’re homebodies, and enjoy being home. However mundanity of wake, work, hobbies, sleep in the same place every day is getting to us.
It’ll be a slightly different approach to the other though. For me, I want to start playing some tabletop games (war games and/or RPGs) at my Friendly Local Game Shop. I think these types of interactions are important for community.
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Whats wrong with Dan Brown if you don't mind me asking?
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#5> Hanging out with other humans is good – and if you can’t find a community… you can always build your own.
I did just that, and built https://wonderful.dev
It's based around jobs for devs, but right now it's just a place to chat about tech.
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Not sure about his past writing, but I feel like the problem they're describing (not having a community) is often enlarged if you don't have kids. I'm getting older, and even though I don't want kids as well, most people my age are structuring their lives around their kids/potential kids down the line, and I guess that provides the sense of community and giving "a reason to go out."
Once you're past a certain age, social life will not be automatic like it used to when you were younger. You need to agro pursue a social life and maintain relationships and friendships. On the flip side, some of my close friendships at this age are super strong since we've been allies for decades.
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#7> Hanging out with other humans is good – and if you can’t find a community… you can always build your own. I did just that, and built https://wonderful.dev It's based around jobs for devs, but right now it's just a place to chat about tech.
They literally said that online communities wasn't what they were talking about though.
> And this was when I finally realised something that should have been obvious. I had a small group of close friends who were spread across the country. I had a wider group of friends and acquaintances who I’d talk to online.
> But what I lacked was a community.
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#8> Hanging out with other humans is good – and if you can’t find a community… you can always build your own. I did just that, and built https://wonderful.dev It's based around jobs for devs, but right now it's just a place to chat about tech.
Meta commentary: there’s something interesting in the fact that my first instinct was “great another piece of vibeslop”, which inverted completely to genuine interest when I recognized your username.
The “personal brand” and track record might be getting even more important now that the bar to building something has dropped to the floor.
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Whats wrong with Dan Brown if you don't mind me asking?
> The critics said his writing was clumsy, ungrammatical, repetitive and repetitive. They said it was full of unnecessary tautology. They said his prose was swamped in a sea of mixed metaphors. For some reason they found something funny in sentences such as “His eyes went white, like a shark about to attack.” They even say my books are packed with banal and superfluous description, thought the 5ft 9in man. He particularly hated it when they said his imagery was nonsensical. It made his insect eyes flash like a rocket.
> Renowned author Dan Brown got out of his luxurious four-poster bed in his expensive $10 million house and paced the bedroom, using the feet located at the ends of his two legs to propel him forwards. He knew he shouldn’t care what a few jealous critics thought. His new book Inferno was coming out on Tuesday, and the 480-page hardback published by Doubleday with a recommended US retail price of $29.95 was sure to be a hit. Wasn’t it?
https://jimmyakin.com/2024/03/dont-make-fun-of-renowned-dan-...
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#10Back in 2019, got to go to Hong Kong for a couple months for work and got to bring my family.
I was about to turn 40 and realized that the place we were staying had a rock wall. In a somewhat "mid life crisis" spur of the moment decision, I decided to go buy shoes, a belt and a chalk bag (I did a lot of indoor rock climbing in college).
We get there and the rock wall is a. closed and b. only for kids.
Get back to the US and COVID lockdown starts. As things open up, I go on the town dad's Facebook group and ask if anyone wants to go rock climbing with me. Multiple dads say "hell, yes!" so I start a rock climbing club.
One of the dads that joins the climbing club loves board games, is inspired by my starting the rock climbing club so he starts the town board game club.
I tell people this story to illustrate that:
- if you don't have a club or org for something that you're into, go start one
- you doing the above can trigger other people to start clubs too