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Life Changing Books on Sex and Relationships

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Re: Life Changing Books on Sex and Relationships

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Post by GaryNumanVevo »

jesterson wrote: post #6

The Rational Male - Rollo Tomassi. I know it likely going to be a hated example, but nonetheless I strongly suggest to read it if you are confused or unsure about certain aspects of relationships.

I'd agree, Rational Male is a life changing book.

It works on a number of levels:

- Confirms many young man's (usually wrong) biases about women.

- Provides a convenient post-hoc rationalization to men who cannot get laid.

- Further mystifies the idea of women by building convoluted pseudo-intellectual structures.

Re: Life Changing Books on Sex and Relationships

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Post by galfarragem »

joshxyz wrote: post #15

the way of superior man by david deida - this is a traditional take between the masculine and feminine. the alabaster girl by zan perrion - this is an in depth exploration of social dynamics in relationships.

«Hot women are attracted to “shiny objects”: money clips, camera lenses, fancy watches. All you have to do is flash it better or more profusely than the next guy and you’re in. This is something men can understand, for there is logic here, and structure. A road map to follow: acquire shiny objects, acquire hot women. Simple. One for the left arm and one for the right arm? Sure, why not?

Beautiful women do not care about these things at all. They are attracted to only one thing in men: beauty. And what is the beauty in a man? A lifelong devotion to a personal passion, a passion larger than him, larger than her, larger than the whole wide world, a passion that radiates from his pores until the day he dies. This is the beauty of men. And this is why beautiful women are forever in love with starving artists, musicians, dreamers, iconoclasts. They love these men because they, too, possess a certain, rare beauty. They, too, are set apart.»

-- Zan Perrion, "The alabaster girl"

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Post by circlefavshape »

joop_dev wrote: post #10

Mating in captivity by Esther Perel. It touches on how comfort and safety in a relationship can pose a challenge on sexual desire and excitement as an increase in one can decrease the other. It provides realizations and examples that make you think and see your relationship in a different way. It also touches on how societal norms and views can conflict with sexual desires and limit us in expressing ourselves

Esther Perel is amazing, but alas this book didn't solve the problems I hoped it would
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