Might I ask what happened over these 120 dates. Is there none of them you find attractive or see a path to a meaningful connection with in time?
I found about 1 in ten attractive and then they ghosted me after a few dates
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#12Watch the following https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=4FF2XkzGMCg and try to understand and ask the universe for help.
I definitely talk to the universe a lot but it doesn’t seem to talk back to me very much in this particular category
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#13Keep unmarried. As a married man I can say that marriage and having a kid habe their own quirks and when I look back it was just trading A for B with A not necessarily worse than B.
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#14Is that 120 first dates?
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#15Sorry you're going through this. That sounds trying.
Was it Alaska that was described as "the odds are good, but the goods are odd" regarding the dating scene and overabundance of men? Maybe a summer in Anchorage is worth a try. You will lose Austin's amazing taco scene, but gain some glaciers :)
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#16Stop being so picky and realize no one (and by extension, everyone) is perfect. No one person is going to fulfill all of your romantic and relationship needs, and that's ok.
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#17Might I ask what happened over these 120 dates. Is there none of them you find attractive or see a path to a meaningful connection with in time?
I found about 1 in ten attractive and then they ghosted me after a few dates
Sounds like a filtering issue. Don't waste your time if you don't find them highly attractive.
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#18What has led those 120 potential partners to not work out? From what you’ve described here, you’re quite the catch. Is it that belief that is leading you to have too high of standards for your mate?
I think it’s quite possible or I don’t know what to look for. I didn’t have a dad so it’s hard for me to know what I like and don’t like. That said, there are many men I’ve found attractive when the timing wasn’t right so I don’t know that I’m too picky either. Hard to say. I wish I was more discerning in seeing who is a good man who could be a good partner for me
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#20Is that 120 first dates?
No one out of ten I had second or third dates with