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H.r. is not on your side, ever.
Promises of future compensation or promotion are meaningless.
Spend more time outdoors.
Learn a hobby or skill that doesn't involve a screen.
Your health isn't worth what they're paying.
A businesses relationship is just that and nothing more.
And I believed them, took those opportunities and and kept waiting for the next thing to happen. And they stopped coming. I got older and stopped being that young "prodigy" and people didn't really give a shit.
Don't get me wrong, I did go places and I developed rich relationships. Realizing that I wasn't nearly as intelligent as I thought and accepting myself as-is was a GIFT.
But being that young rockstar/ninja will end some day and you'll have to survive on raw effort and tenacity.
Why limit hard-lessons-learned to men? Woman wont have any lessons you could learn from?
1) you can't make someone happy; that's on them.
2) find what (re)charges you and make time for it.
3) transitions in our society (thinking US) are not given the proper ceremony/reflection. It is important to notice that something is ending, that there will be a period of unease, and there will be a new beginning. For me, I was not embracing some changes and it made my life worse. Acknowledging/embracing the changes allowed me to stop fighting and start enjoying.
> Dear fellow men Why limit hard-lessons-learned to men? Woman wont have any lessons you could learn from? 1) you can't make someone happy; that's on them. 2) find what (re)charges you and make time for it. 3) transitions in our society (thinking US) are not given the proper ceremony/reflection. It is important to notice that something is ending, that there will be a period of unease, and there will be a new beginnin…
2.) Invest early. Even if you’re 20 and can only invest a few hundred dollars, do it. And keep adding to that account
3.) Look at the stars often. Always stay grounded and remember that at the end of the day, nobody knows why we’re here or what the universe actually is. Enjoy the ride, because as far as we know it’s the only one we got. When you stare into infinity you realize there are more important things than what people do all day (Calvin and Hobbes quote)
2) The contrast to that is that nobody has it all. Especially every person you perceive as having enjoyed the 'life isn't fair' side of the equation.
3) Most of what you are taught, told, believe, spew (by thought fashion) will more than likely not withstand the test of time. The best thing you can be is adaptable and open minded, tho age has a way of curtailing that.
4) Having a continuously curious (and open) mind and preferably a pair of hands to go along with it is the perfect antidote for a world that desperately wants to make you an automaton.
5) Lastly, don't believe everything you think. This is a quote that you'll find everywhere online so not original here, but I wish someone told me this with conviction when i was 20.
If you don’t have many responsibilities (ie no kids, no sick/poor relatives, no serious illness) you are pretty free to spend 5-10 years on starting your own thing.
You might need to give up on luxuries you are used to: living in the city, living alone, take out, regular nights out but surely the freedom is worth it.
For $50k you could probably survive for 5-10 years in a low COL place it the world with a laptop and internet. Have another 50k for business costs to help you scale up.
Or you could plan another sprint, argue with the manager to work on tech debt instead of hack another feature in, and pretend to be “on the same hymn sheet” while angling to learn enough of the next JS framework to get a $20k rise so you can afford COL increases.