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Startup founder reportedly jumped to her death from the top of NYC rooftop bar

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Re: Startup founder reportedly jumped to her death from the top of NYC rooftop bar

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You are not your work. You are so much more. Stay strong. _________________________________________________________ Edit: Fred Wilson speaks more eloquently here: http://avc.com/2014/01/you-are-not-your-work/

Not trying to criticize here, but i've never cared for the term "stay strong" it's like telling someone who's depressed to "just be happy". I get the sentiment though, just something about the phrase that irks me i guess.

>Not trying to criticize here, but i've never cared for the term "stay strong" it's like telling someone who's depressed to "just be happy".

Just as most people aren't depressed and thus can influence their own happiness and can take responsibility for their own emotions (depression is a disease which robs a person of this control), I believe most of us are responsible for our willpower and strength.

Through meditation, or reflection, or any number of ways, we can center ourselves, we can strengthen ourselves, we can be better.

I understand that if you have a disease like depression you cannot take control of your happiness, but that doesn't absolve the rest of us of our responsibility for both mental health and physical health.

Just as we work out our bodies we must "work out" our minds, and stay strong is a message to the 95% of us who have control of ourselves to stay on our path to mental and physical health and the benefits it provides.

Re: Startup founder reportedly jumped to her death from the top of NYC rooftop bar

#12
If you're depressed making the first move to reach out to talk about your situation is really fucking hard, especially if people's perception of you is that you're some sort of go-getting independent business founder who can do everything. This is a reminder that it's worthwhile dropping an email/text/phone call to someone you've not spoken to for a while - it's possible that no one has reached out to them recently, and they need to talk.

The worst that could happen is you have a chat, while the best that could happen, without wishing to sound overly melodramatic, is that you save their life.

Re: Startup founder reportedly jumped to her death from the top of NYC rooftop bar

#15

800-273-8255 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 24 hours a day, 7 days a week or www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

International help: http://www.befrienders.org/find-a-helpline

And for HN's healthy Indian population AASRA 24/7 helpline at +91-22-27546669 or +91-22-27546667. http://www.aasra.info

Re: Startup founder reportedly jumped to her death from the top of NYC rooftop bar

#16
Her upbringing likely was a factor as well as the stress of startup life.

(http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3169057/Faigy-Mayer-...)

This hits close to home, being a 30-something software developer, and having grown up in a very religious, anti-intellectual household. Very sad, and preventable.

Re: Startup founder reportedly jumped to her death from the top of NYC rooftop bar

#17
We're not journalists, but as suicide seems to be affected by social proof [1] perhaps we should bear these guidelines [2] in mind when commenting or finding an article to link to?

[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Copycat_suicide#Social_proof_m...

[2] http://www.samaritans.org/media-centre/media-guidelines-repo...

Re: Startup founder reportedly jumped to her death from the top of NYC rooftop bar

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post #12

If you're depressed making the first move to reach out to talk about your situation is really fucking hard , especially if people's perception of you is that you're some sort of go-getting independent business founder who can do everything . This is a reminder that it's worthwhile dropping an email/text/phone call to someone you've not spoken to for a while - it's possible that no one has reached out to them recently…

I think we need to work on removing the stigma around general therapy. I have not personally seen a therapist, but of those I know who have, they almost always talk of it being a positive experience. In some cases, they have even advocated semi-regular therapy as a general health regimen, much like you might see a dentist or doctor regularly for checkups.

Re: Startup founder reportedly jumped to her death from the top of NYC rooftop bar

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Her upbringing likely was a factor as well as the stress of startup life. ( http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3169057/Faigy-Mayer-... ) This hits close to home, being a 30-something software developer, and having grown up in a very religious, anti-intellectual household. Very sad, and preventable.

The article mentioned a religious documentary she was interviewed for. Here is that interview.

https://youtu.be/TjDzR5plpS4?t=15m52s

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