How to Make Online Dating Work

amelius wrote: post #5

azdle wrote: post #3

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Step 2: don't be unattractive

Or just pretend to be attractive. People seem to like being fooled (we often fool ourselves to feel good, see self-serving bias) so why not?

MySpace angle, check.

Re: How to Make Online Dating Work

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Post by yummyfajitas » Sun, Jun 14, 2015, 12:55 PM UTC

edwhitesell wrote: post #4

azdle wrote: post #3

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Step 2: don't be unattractive

Step 3: Avoid profiles of other attractive people. Those are most likely fake.

In my limited experience (been on the internet about a month), this is totally backwards. The 7-9s have all been exactly as advertised, it's the 5s and 6s who were actually 3-4s with clever angles and ancient pics. If there is no bikini or crop top in the pics, don't bother.

I feel bad for the real 5-6s, it's quite a lemon market out there for them.

Re: How to Make Online Dating Work

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Post by auganov » Sun, Jun 14, 2015, 1:22 PM UTC

I wonder how many of the couples that "met online" actually met on a dating site/app. It sounds rather native to reduce the discussion to these. People that use these are probably a self-selecting group that's not representative of the whole population. Pretty much everybody I know that met someone online [in a romantic context] was through regular social sites (facebooks, instagrams, tumblrs etc).

Re: How to Make Online Dating Work

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Post by jacques_chester » Sun, Jun 14, 2015, 2:04 PM UTC

Some problems aren't really solvable. All you can do is move the suckiness around.

Here's the problem: attraction is highly asymmetric. Many are attracted to few.

Shrink a pool of heterosexual individuals to a pool to 3 men and 3 women -- the outcomes will still be asymmetric, with the majority of participants not getting who they preferred.

No scheme, no twist, no app, no idea can change this, until the cyberpunk vision of affordable beauty is a reality.