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Re: Today is the end of sheloshim for my beloved husband

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Both of which are generally more "BBC newsworthy" for us UK residents. With that said, I don't do Football and was part of the Runaway Mine Train crash.

I went on that in the early 1990s when it opened. Hope you didn't get injured!

Just a little whiplash and broken glasses. I was one of the lucky ones.

I've been on it once since that day to try and get over it, I spent the entire time shaking and holding on to my partner very tightly, heh.

Thanks :)

Re: Today is the end of sheloshim for my beloved husband

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I went on that in the early 1990s when it opened. Hope you didn't get injured!

Just a little whiplash and broken glasses. I was one of the lucky ones. I've been on it once since that day to try and get over it, I spent the entire time shaking and holding on to my partner very tightly, heh. Thanks :)

Now that's the daredevil attitude I like to hear :)

Re: Today is the end of sheloshim for my beloved husband

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If you can't understand why Sheryl Sandberg and David Goldberg are important to the Hacker New community then I fear you have a misunderstanding of what Hacker News is.

I second this, plus i'm annoyed by the religious, in this case jewish, component of this all.

Re: Today is the end of sheloshim for my beloved husband

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Paul Buchheit wrote a wonderful post, after similar circumstances, that I often re-read: > On a more practical level, what matters most in our day-to-day lives is that we're good to ourselves and to each other. It's actually not possible to only do one or the other -- we must do both or neither, but that's a topic for another time. Sometimes, when I write about startups or other interests of mine, I worry that perhap…

Good message. In the old days we needed a Buddha, Jesus or a Krishna to remind us of the simple truths. Today we look for them in blog posts. Everything changes and nothing changes.

I mean, you are commenting on the site created by a guy whose essays people read as scripture. :)

Re: Today is the end of sheloshim for my beloved husband

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Generalizing, dogmatic attitudes, some of which are religious - and some of which are expressed in your comment - are harmful. It's just as silly - and intellectually easy - to blindly condemn culture and religion as it is to blindly follow them. There's a wonderfully epic two-part South Park episode that makes this point: http://southpark.cc.com/full-episodes/s10e12-go-god-go http://southpark.cc.com/full-episodes/s1…

It is not silly at all to condemn silly and harmful beliefs and children indoctrination. The more I see the more convinced I am that Hitchens was right: religion poisons everything.

No religious flamewars on Hacker News, please.

Re: Today is the end of sheloshim for my beloved husband

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What are the things that—on your deathbed—you expect to regret? Will it be that you didn't spend as much time as you could've with your parents before they died? How about with your siblings? Maybe it was all of the times that you didn't make it to your kids' soccer games, piano recitals, school plays, or graduations? Or will it be that you didn't spend nearly enough nights at the office fixing your social media star…

> What are the things that—on your deathbed—you expect to regret? What does it matter? Let's say the deathbed will last seven days. That's nothing compared to the rest of your life (let's say ~70 years). Why would you guide your life according to a projection of what you will feel in a mere seven days of your whole life? Why not ask more immediate questions: is anything I do right now, day to day , that I could do di…

I guess what you say is actually what that means. Not a literal deathbed realization.

There is no end-game, there is no winning, no failure, no goals in life except what you put in it. The only thing that will decide if you are worthy or not is yourself. Yourself today and yourself tomorrow up to the day you die.

Financial gain is a dangerous goal in life because it very often has a very poor ROI. On the other hand, your whole biology, tweaked by million of year of evolution, made it so that taking care of people around you is very often the best bang of happiness for buck.

But then whatever, plenty of religion / philosophies to rationalize yourself into happiness almost regardless what you decide to do.

Re: Today is the end of sheloshim for my beloved husband

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Whilst I also think the parent comment is callous and stupid, I don't think your comment is called for.

HN is a great community, with smart comments and good people. It will only stay that way if people call out bad behavior. Especially in a case like this where someone made an account just to post such a nasty comment.

Responding to nastiness with more nastiness is the surest way to destroy HN. The way to help is to gently point out that we all need to follow the site guidelines.

Re: Today is the end of sheloshim for my beloved husband

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I hear this sentiment all the time--about what's really important and what our priorities should be, etc. But, there is something disingenuous about it. We have engineered a society wherein our very survival depends upon these "games" to which Mr. Buchheit has alluded. And, in his case he has the luxury of considering his economic endeavors to be games. It's certainly not his fault. I'm saying that we choose the soci…

> we choose the society we want That's not really true. I don't think there's any meaningful sense in which anybody chose this society. We don't have that level of control.

Oh yes we do! Every time we vote.

Every society makes choices about what it values most. Values prized in Anglo-Saxon economy is freedom and individualism. Asians see it differently. Nordic and Mediterranean societies value social welfare.

Take universal health care; what some see as 'communism' is to others the perfectly obvious logic that every human being deserves health care by virtue of being a human being, and not based on the size of their wallet.

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