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Re: I Have Nonverbal Autism. Here’s What I Want You to Know

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Post by uf » Tue, May 19, 2015, 12:15 PM UTC

fecak wrote: post #46

uf wrote: post #44

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Having Asperger myself and having watched alot of parents I'd like to share a thought. To me the biggest problem seems to be connecting to the outside world. I've also observed children having trouble with this, as it seems they weren't able to filter relevant stimuli to react on: "Do they speak to me? I don't know.. So I'll continue to wait." This is a pattern I'm using as well. However, things I do understand are p…

Thanks for sharing your experience, and our experience is similar regarding being direct and clear when we need to communicate something important. This includes removing any distractions from the environment. She does seem to understand emotion sometimes, but inappropriate reactions make it hard to tell. As for examples, she consistently laughs when babies cry, and often when we scold her for any 'dangerous' type be…

Thank you for kind words. I'm not so sure how I can answer your response. I certainly can't interpret your daughters behavior. I'm in no position to do so.

Still, your post has deeply moved me and I feel like I can relate to what you're writing.

So I'll again share my feelings: I often respond similar when being scolded. It really is exciting to feel such a strong emotion. Or I'm simply happy that I made a connection to the outside. People get very irritated by that.

Re: I Have Nonverbal Autism. Here’s What I Want You to Know

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Post by fecak » Tue, May 19, 2015, 4:23 PM UTC

uf wrote: post #51

fecak wrote: post #46

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Thanks for sharing your experience, and our experience is similar regarding being direct and clear when we need to communicate something important. This includes removing any distractions from the environment. She does seem to understand emotion sometimes, but inappropriate reactions make it hard to tell. As for examples, she consistently laughs when babies cry, and often when we scold her for any 'dangerous' type be…

Thank you for kind words. I'm not so sure how I can answer your response. I certainly can't interpret your daughters behavior. I'm in no position to do so. Still, your post has deeply moved me and I feel like I can relate to what you're writing. So I'll again share my feelings: I often respond similar when being scolded. It really is exciting to feel such a strong emotion. Or I'm simply happy that I made a connection…

Thanks. I have no expectation that anyone will be able to fully explain what her specific behaviors mean (other than for her to tell me, hopefully, at some point). I can appreciate how someone might be happy to connect or get a reaction, even if the reaction is negative.

Re: I Have Nonverbal Autism. Here’s What I Want You to Know

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Post by wersplectior » Tue, May 19, 2015, 6:58 PM UTC

bitwize wrote: post #47

wersplectior wrote: post #20

>'Let’s pretend you are like me. You can’t talk, but you have a well-functioning mind' I thought that one of the few genuine insights made about autism is that so-called autistic people have difficultly reading intentions (their own, or other people's) or even appreciating what minds and intentions are . Which is why they appear selfish, and why they're unqualified to make such statements. Also sceptical that coercin…

Some of us are hyper-capable at making educated guesses about people's intentions and even ulterior motives; where we suck is in generating appropriate responses . Autistic "social skills", like everything else about us, exist on a wide-ass spectrum.

Before an autistic child, or any child, can make guesses about people's intentions, he has to know that such things even exist. If you learn this late then, sure, your responses are going to be different, even problematic (not guided by the inexplicit knowledge other children developed at an earlier stage).