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Re: Get Your Shit Together

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Post by breischl »

I've lately been pondering how to handle the passwords piece of this. I use 1Password, which is convenient because I have a handy-dandy database of passwords, but makes it unrealistic that I'll write them all down on paper. So the problem becomes passing along that database and the master password for it. I also want to avoid giving that to anybody before I'm dead, for obvious reasons.

My best plan so far is to put the database on a hidden (but public) shared location, and use IfIDie.org to send the link to my inheritors. I would then physically meet with them and give them the password (but not the link). It's kind of awkward, and I don't love it, but seems like it could work even for my relatives of modest technical literacy.

I'd be really curious if anyone has a better approach for securely passing important data after you're dead.

Re: Get Your Shit Together

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Post by jalons »

breischl wrote: post #81

I've lately been pondering how to handle the passwords piece of this. I use 1Password, which is convenient because I have a handy-dandy database of passwords, but makes it unrealistic that I'll write them all down on paper. So the problem becomes passing along that database and the master password for it. I also want to avoid giving that to anybody before I'm dead, for obvious reasons. My best plan so far is to put t…

A safety deposit box with the password to the master database?

Sometimes low tech works.

Re: Get Your Shit Together

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Post by pandler »

mootothemax wrote: post #36

My father died in extremely unexpected circumstances, and as much as a will would've been handy (understatement of the year), there are other bits that save heartache and frustrated compromise. For example: - do you want to be buried or cremated? And where? Any thoughts on coffin design? - do you want a church service or something else? What songs, how big, as many details as possible. It's morbid stuff, but by writi…

The one thing I know about my mother's death (won't happen until after she's reached 100 according to her) is that she has expressly forbidden us from having flowers at her funeral. Instead, she prefers we send her flowers while she's still alive so she can actually enjoy them.

She also wants her body to be burned in a viking longship out at sea. We'll see how that goes.

Re: Get Your Shit Together

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Post by knicholes »

This makes me want a service that allows me to send letters to people upon my death/capture (or text messages or whatever) so if I don't unmark a flag after x days/months/years it sends out that information. Sort of like, "If you're watching this, I must be dead," or, "PS I Love You," kind of thing.

Re: Get Your Shit Together

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Post by dbarlett »

knicholes wrote: post #84

This makes me want a service that allows me to send letters to people upon my death/capture (or text messages or whatever) so if I don't unmark a flag after x days/months/years it sends out that information. Sort of like, "If you're watching this, I must be dead," or, "PS I Love You," kind of thing.

https://www.deadmansswitch.net/

Re: Get Your Shit Together

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Post by __z »

tptacek wrote: post #78
__z wrote: post #31

I doubt these documents would be worth anything without getting notarized. Among other problems. Getting something notarized runs from free-around $2 so it's hilarious they expect you to track down two impartial witnesses but don't even mention a notary public. If you are familiar with the current pending Supreme Court case DeBoer v. Snyder (which for the Supreme Court was combined with 3 other cases) you'd know in m…

The authors doubt that too, which is why "getting documents notarized" is in the checklist.

Must have missed it. I just opened the documents and read through them quickly and didn't see anything about a notary public.

Re: Get Your Shit Together

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Post by zhengyi13 »

napoleond wrote: post #43
jobu wrote: post #30

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> Frankly I don't see why the HN crowd would upvote a site like this -- I'd bet it was ring votes that got it to the front page. Or maybe it was just the snarky domain, who knows. My guess is it struck a chord with people similar to myself - young family and minimal EOL planning. (although the snarky domain definitely helps) For us, the biggest problem has been deciding who should take care of the kids if something h…

In the Roman Catholic tradition, this problem is solved with godparents. I'm not Catholic (and I don't have kids yet), but the model seems to make sense. Forgive me for stepping way beyond the bounds of "internet stranger's business" but if your close friends' lives are so full that they would not care for your children if you became incapacitated, you need better friends.

I come from the RC tradition as well, though we didn't baptize our children.

I can think of exactly two sets of people in our diverse set of friends (and they are good friends) whom we might ask for this kind of consideration, but really, even both of them are problematic for reasons that have nothing to do with the quality of our friendship.

Re: Get Your Shit Together

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Post by SomewhatLikely »

knicholes wrote: post #84

This makes me want a service that allows me to send letters to people upon my death/capture (or text messages or whatever) so if I don't unmark a flag after x days/months/years it sends out that information. Sort of like, "If you're watching this, I must be dead," or, "PS I Love You," kind of thing.

Google has an inactive account manager that basically does this: https://www.google.com/settings/u/0/account/inactive

Re: Get Your Shit Together

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Post by iamthepieman »

ersii wrote: post #74
iamthepieman wrote: post #10

I didn't see this covered under the will section but do talk to important people in your life while you are making your will. Nothing in your will should be a surprise to those that are involved in your estate after you die. If you are leaving a large asset (money, house, investments, a 500 foot yacht in the Bahamas you never told anyone about) then the person getting it should know before hand. If you have kids you…

If you are leaving a large asset (money, house, investments, a 500 foot yacht in the Bahamas you never told anyone about) then the person getting it should know before hand. Could you elaborate on why you should tell someone before hand that you're going to leave assets in their name? Is it just common courtesy/manners in your opinion? Or something else? I'm genuinely courageous.

as smileysteve said anything except for cash has it's own burdens and commitment associated with it.

If I left my house to my brother who travels all over the place and has a carefree life it might be more of a burden trying to maintain it, rent it out or sell it than its worth. It might not, but that's why I would talk to him before putting it in a will.

Also, having these kinds of conversations is good for everyone involved because it makes them think about the little details beforehand and not while they are in the middle of funeral plans and grieving.

It's called estate planning, not estate liquidation or estate lottery. You wouldn't make major plans regarding your family without talking to your spouse or business plans without talking to your partners.

Just because you won't be around doesn't mean you should treat it any differently. Anyone involved in your estate should be involved prior to your will going into effect whether they be executors, caregivers or recipients.

Re: Get Your Shit Together

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Post by __z »

kendallpark wrote: post #51

How does disability insurance work for students? I am going to be entering medical school. You typically get disability after you graduate, but if something happened in those four years, I could be a hundred thousand in debt with no viable career option as an MD.

You would have to purchase private disability insurance or private life insurance. Almost every major insurance company offers it.
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