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- Work on becoming self-suficient. Don't rely on a job. - Jobs are just a means to an end. Not the main part of your life. - Stress is never worth the moments of happiness it creates. Hard work is. - Put yourself through hell. You will find out who you are and what you want. - Don't trust the media or mainstream thinking. They're in it for the money. - Most people are emotional. If you use logic and reason, you will…
- Work on becoming self-suficient. Don't rely on a job. - Jobs are just a means to an end. Not the main part of your life. - Stress is never worth the moments of happiness it creates. Hard work is. - Put yourself through hell. You will find out who you are and what you want. - Don't trust the media or mainstream thinking. They're in it for the money. - Most people are emotional. If you use logic and reason, you will…
"- Most people are emotional. If you use logic and reason, you will fail miserably." Can you explain this one further please?
Don't join a frat or sorority in college. I don't care if it's a 'nerdy' or 'good guys' frat at an elite university (my experience), it will be a very dumb time sink, and the networking from it is not worth it when you can get involved in other groups which offer useful connections as well. And really, really try to become as fiercely independent as possible. Otherwise you almost certainly will start measuring yourse…
Don't rush a fraternity or sorority for the connections - you'll be sorely disappointed when you find out 95% of the other members are just normal people from a normal background. The few connections that may be valuable business-wise probably won't even be in your field.
Do rush a fraternity/sorority if you're looking to make friends and get the social college experience. If you have a history of having a hard time making friends, there are few options that are better than joining greek org.
Don't rush a fraternity/sorority if you have a tight schedule. Parent comment is serious, they're a huge time sink - especially during your pledging semester.
Do rush a fraternity/sorority if you want a head start in social/management experience. I can't tell you how hard it is to promote engineers into management positions because the vast majority don't have the social skills required to reward, pressure, or inspire their underlings. Getting involved in a fraternal organization will get you extremely valuable leadership experience, experience in how to organize people, and most importantly, experience in how to inspire people to do the things you need to get done.
I honestly can admit that I wouldn't be where I am today without the social skills I learned during my tenure in a fraternity. While the vast majority of bad press about the greek system are puff pieces meant to enrage people, do know that the greek system is not for everyone.
Don't join a frat or sorority in college. I don't care if it's a 'nerdy' or 'good guys' frat at an elite university (my experience), it will be a very dumb time sink, and the networking from it is not worth it when you can get involved in other groups which offer useful connections as well. And really, really try to become as fiercely independent as possible. Otherwise you almost certainly will start measuring yourse…
As a counter, joining a fraternity was the best decision I had ever made. After my first few years of college, I still had no social network and very few friends. After rushing a fraternity, I became part of an ultra-inclusive group and made friends and bonds that have lasted the rest of my life. Don't rush a fraternity or sorority for the connections - you'll be sorely disappointed when you find out 95% of the other…
a) You don't have social skills, so you can learn them (even though I think this can be achieved through plenty of other organizations on campus)
b) You aspire to be in management, i.e. not technical trades or career paths that don't require heavy person sacrifice and investment (like STEM or startups... again something that I also think can be achieved in other groups on campus - if even just the 'business fraternity' which a lot of uni's have, which is actually a club and not a 'fraternity').
I am glad however, that joining a fraternity worked out for you. I do also think almost everyone looks favorably on their college experience and have trouble imagining it had they made different choices.
But again, it's a massive time sink, and if there is something you are truly serious, ambitious about pursuing, a fraternity will absolutely work against you. If you just want to have 'a college experience', and if you don't really know what you want to do, then sure, join a fraternity.
(As a final note, the successful people I know from my fraternity are working basically non technical finance jobs (non technical in the sense there aren't heavy prerequisites before you start except be generally good at math) at ibanks or hedge funds that their parents or network got them, basically jobs where you can afford to mess around most of college, so long as you have your connection.)
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Riding a bicycle. I find cycling very satisfying for all sorts of reasons, and although it can seem easy to compromise on cycling (infrastructure isn't there, car is easier, whatever) it's a joy when it's happening.
Follow-up to that. If you go into cycling do not bother about equipment, but about the cycling.
Learn Lisp sooner.
Don't trust advice from rich old white men. Get investing in Stocks as early as possible with a buy and hold strategy for companies you believe in. Sex isn't worth the pedestal it's often placed on. FOMO (Fear of missing out) is a life killer. You'll never be able to do all the cool things all the time. Find a mentor.
People often talk down on sex, I've noticed. Why is that so? Is it because people can use sex as an excuse to procrastinate?
In my particular case it really fucked me up. Raging hormones, poorly socialized, no support network, bad luck, poor communication, and shitty judgement. Yay, puberty.
In general chasing sex for its own sake can be destructive.
That said if you come from an unbroken family, have a network of good relationships, and have learned to have a healthy attitude towards sex... then you're golden.
Don't go to Canada.
- Keep up with market trends.
- Strategize marketing/sales first, implement later.