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Re: HN Help: I'm lost

#101
post #67

I too was in a similar situation some time ago. I just left everything behind me and went on a long journey. I stayed among some of the the most poor people, I stayed with most astute people. I slept on railway platforms, traveled in bull carts, I stayed with tribal and I visited different temples. I realized that there is nothing in this world that can make me feel complete except my inner desire. In this journey i…

You see, I think it is a lot easier to deal with problems and survive through troubles when you are 'only with yourself'. The worst thing that can happen only to yourself is not the worst thing, but when you must support your family or there's somebody you care about, tell me how can you be with yourself then? It's very hard to leave people you love.

Maybe you can't protect your family from everything, though. They are independent people, who knows, maybe they can deal? Maybe everyone could be better off in the end? Just saying...

For example my dad had lots of debt and it was a burden to the whole family. You know what, instead of him working himself to pieces and me watching, perhaps I would have preferred to move to Africa or whatever. I think there are almost always possible ways out, you just have to allow yourself to see them.

Re: HN Help: I'm lost

#102

Either talk to your wife/gf about it or leave her on the spot. Call everyone in your address book and ask them to have a cup of coffee with you. Tell them you're ripe for a change and see what comes out of it. Get a job in Singapore and see whether any startup ideas/opportunities result from it.

Not sure why you were downvoted? Perhaps for suggesting to leave the wife? It sounds cruel, but who knows, sometimes it might be better for everyone.

Re: HN Help: I'm lost

#105

Maybe retrain as a teacher and do private tuition in the mean time? The working hours will be better, it's rewarding work (not financially), probably quite a secure job and you can work on ad hoc projects/consulting on the side.

This online certification program looks pretty painless if you are going that route. getting another bachelor's degree is the biggest hurdle for 2nd-career teachers.

Every once in a while I think about it...

http://www.wgu.edu/education/teacher_certification

Basic Tuition for Most Programs is Just $2,890 Per Six-Month Term WGU charges tuition at a flat rate every six months, so you pay for the time, not the credit hours. Compare that with what other reputable, regionally accredited online universities charge, and you’ll discover WGU tuition is typically half the cost.

Re: HN Help: I'm lost

#106

I'm posting this as a separate comment, not because I think that it particularly applies to your situation, but because it is good advice in the general case. If you should happen to feel, "I am utterly unhappy with my life" at any time, it might not hurt to at least darken the door of a trusted mental health professional just to be sure that there is not a clinical element to your feelings of malaise as well as circ…

I can't upvote this comment enough. Mental health professionals don't necessarily hold all the answers (so be wary), but the poster's problems (or at least his perspective) may be a result of depression.

Re: HN Help: I'm lost

#107

I'm 32 and work from home. 2 daughters. A wife who works with me. We both have a background in journalism, and she was making some good money when working for big TV. We decided to marry and try to create a site by ourselves. We believe in simple life and try to be frugal. Downshifting. No more commutes and stupid meetings; no more work on something we don't believe in. We have spent more money than we got in return.…

I appreciate you not using this as chance to market your site, but I'm curious now! Please post your URL.

Re: HN Help: I'm lost

#108

quietly work on a startup while still going to your job, and when that provides enough money quit your job and grow it stronger

This might be hard, especially since he doesn't have time to spend with his own kids :(

Re: HN Help: I'm lost

#109
post #84
post #76

Earlier quoted context omitted.

"Poverty is uncomfortable, but regret is excruciating". I cannot upmod you enough for writing that. It's exactly the kind of feeling I've been having for the past few years but haven't been able to put it into words. Sometimes being poor can be one of your largest assets because it makes you more nimble and forces you to make better decisions--both in startup world and life outside. But you're right, regret is excruc…

His family might disagree.

Yeah. I haven't hit that point in my life yet, so that aspect was not my first consideration. But even so, there are various levels of poverty. My assumption here is that we're not speaking about the destitute. We are simply trying to keep with the standard of living for a typical family. If you are willing to give up extra luxuries (fancy home, fancy car, cable, etc) then I believe my statement still stands.
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