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> He claimed he was a communist — a Stalinist, even. He would engage in endless political debates during smoking breaks and drinking sessions. He dreamed of graduate school, an academic career and, one day, even leading a riot. I am really glad this guys dream's got crushed by reality. He just sounds like a horrible person.
>Sebastian, a 32-year-old student with several part-time jobs and 12 years of service in the German armed forces, was dumped by the Japanese girlfriend he had been seeing for a year because he had 'no future' in Japan, she said. Just what I need to read as I'm in the happiest relationship of my life with a Japanese girl.
If you're really that worried, you could just be an adult and talk to her about your concerns before you take the plunge and get married. You should probably be doing this anyway - what are your goals and dreams? What do you expect to change or stay the same after getting married? What are your long term plans? These sorts of questions should be fully answered by both parties before you tie the knot.
> He claimed he was a communist — a Stalinist, even. He would engage in endless political debates during smoking breaks and drinking sessions. He dreamed of graduate school, an academic career and, one day, even leading a riot. I am really glad this guys dream's got crushed by reality. He just sounds like a horrible person.
He sounds annoying, but not necessarily horrible. I mean, as not-horrible as you can be while identifying yourself with one of the greatest mass-murderers and psychopaths of the 20th century.
Could that be a well known HNer by any chance?
> He claimed he was a communist — a Stalinist, even. He would engage in endless political debates during smoking breaks and drinking sessions. He dreamed of graduate school, an academic career and, one day, even leading a riot. I am really glad this guys dream's got crushed by reality. He just sounds like a horrible person.
[0] http://www.blacktokyo.com/2013/11/24/divorce-child-kidnappin... [1] http://www.economist.com/node/17259159
Interesting reading but I had to chuckle at this: "He dreamed of graduate school, an academic career, and even leading a riot" ... But now .. . "it’s difficult to see how he will ever have the money or mobility to realize his dreams" (of leading a riot)
> Jim, an American in his late 20s, used to be a very passionate young man. He claimed he was a communist — a Stalinist, even. He would engage in endless political debates during smoking breaks and drinking sessions. He dreamed of graduate school, an academic career and, one day, even leading a riot. But instead, he got married to a Japanese girl and already had children by the time he graduated. She did not want to…
> Jim, an American in his late 20s, used to be a very passionate young man. He claimed he was a communist — a Stalinist, even. He would engage in endless political debates during smoking breaks and drinking sessions. He dreamed of graduate school, an academic career and, one day, even leading a riot. But instead, he got married to a Japanese girl and already had children by the time he graduated. She did not want to…
I don't think it is a uniquely Japanese phenomenon, but I do think that Japanese society is uniquely lacking in opportunities for people to live outside of the mainstream. It seems that if you miss out on Shinsotsu-Ikkatsu-Saiyō, you are a permanent second-class citizen, with few prospects beyond bare survival. The west is far from perfect, but it offers far more alternatives and second chances.