I have been in your shoes and it is how I started 2 consulting companies now. We lost a number of people to two different product acquisitions and then gained a few etc. Always a bit of an ebb and flow, but it has generally worked well for me since 1999. BTW I am also in Florida. It sounds to me as if you are missing the key ingredient to the mix, you need marketing and business management/development of some sort. M…
It has usually taken the form of 1-3 large contracts but from time to time we pick up smaller stuff. I would love to get together sometime if you would like, I am always down for networking and it's easy to talk me into lunch. My contact info is in my profile, feel free to ping me and we can set something up. I can probably twist Hung's arm into a meal as well.
davismwfl lists his email in his profile and gave you an open invitation to talk with him and especially soak up the knowledge that he has gained from starting two consulting companies. In an instance like that, you want to be the one contacting him, sussing out his schedule, giving him a few options for when you could possibly meet, and following up with him consistently when you get radio silence.
This is not meant to be an attack on your approach, but I read your response as extremely passive (easy to talk me into lunch, probably twist Hung's arm), and an aggressive approach where you actively engage an interested party is what will lead you to succeed in that role.
I understand that taking on that role might not be your forte, so you might be reluctant in fully embracing it. How I would approach it is by attacking the problem head on so you don't have to bring in a business development person who is a complete unknown within your group, and just trusting them to get the job done. Go to local meetup groups, and maybe even meetups within a 2+ hour radius. Troll craigslist for potential clients nationwide. Maybe even line up a couple projects with a freelancing website just to get the ball rolling -- projects that make economic sense (being able to complete a project with 2-5 of your man-hours for 500-1000 dollars).