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My Girlfriend Dissociated and Forgot Who I Was

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Re: My Girlfriend Dissociated and Forgot Who I Was

#11
I'll believe it because I had to be "that person who drives people home after a rave" a few times in my life. There's "I forget my name" drunk, but that's a joke, then there's people who are having a semi-bad trip who literally forget who their friends are. It never got as bad as this fortunately.

Use dissociatives responsibly, be in a familiar environment etc.

Re: My Girlfriend Dissociated and Forgot Who I Was

#12

A touching story, props to the author for his measured response -- the experience has to be difficult not to internalise or freak out from. I wonder if the DID experience is the same as "ego death" as described after ingesting large amounts of psychedelics?

There is a whole class of drugs that induce disassociation, including DXM, PCP, and Ketamine. They are more confusing and disabling than psychedelics like LSD.

Re: My Girlfriend Dissociated and Forgot Who I Was

#13
Wow, such an amazing read!

> A few hours after she first told me, I took some time to read up on dissociative identity disorder.

Shouldn't he have read up on DID in detail when she first told him about rather than when the episode happened? Seeing this mid-way through the event makes it seem like he didn't really do his homework beforehand.

> at its worst, she said, she would not only struggle to identify who she was, but even what she was; unable to process the concept of her own humanity.

This is a really interesting state to study; not knowing your own humanity. Are there any good references to DID that one without prior knowledge can read?

EDIT: Thanks everyone for clarifying. I'm not sure why the down votes though, it was genuine confusion.

Re: My Girlfriend Dissociated and Forgot Who I Was

#14
I was curious with the difference between schizophrenia and DID, since most mental illnesses overlap tremendously. If anyone has a better source, you're welcome to elaborate:

"Schizophrenia and dissociative identity disorder are often confused, but they are very different.

Schizophrenia is a severe mental illness involving chronic (or recurrent) psychosis, characterized mainly by hearing or seeing things that aren't real (hallucinations) and thinking or believing things with no basis in reality (delusions). Contrary to popular misconceptions, people with schizophrenia do not have multiple personalities. Delusions are the most common psychotic symptom in schizophrenia; hallucinations, particularly hearing voices, are apparent in about half of people with the illness." (http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/dissociative-identity-dis...)

Re: My Girlfriend Dissociated and Forgot Who I Was

#15
It was a voluntary response.

This is moronic. Its unbelievable that so many well paid, "highly educated" professionals give this kind of nonsense credence.

The girl elected to have a little flip out episode after she told her boyfriend "I'm about to dissociate". She obviously had no conscious part in her decision, right?

Nothing is mentioned about her being under the influence of psychoactive substances - so discussion on that is reaching for a justification of involuntary action where there is none.

Now the boyfriend writes an overly-dramatic piece about it for the beacon of overly dramatic hipster fanfare: vice. Its his little proclamation of how much he loves a girl that manipulates him with ease. Maybe many of you of upvoted this identify with that aspect.

Re: My Girlfriend Dissociated and Forgot Who I Was

#16
This is an interesting story and if I were a psychiatrist I would be fascinated to study how consciousness can be separated from the ego. In addition, props to the writer; call me selfish all you want but I could absolutely never love someone in a romantic way who had this kind of issue.

Re: My Girlfriend Dissociated and Forgot Who I Was

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Wow, such an amazing read! > A few hours after she first told me, I took some time to read up on dissociative identity disorder. Shouldn't he have read up on DID in detail when she first told him about rather than when the episode happened? Seeing this mid-way through the event makes it seem like he didn't really do his homework beforehand. > at its worst, she said, she would not only struggle to identify who she was…

I believe that, "A few hours after she first told me", refers to the conversation around Christmas, 4 months before the DID episode occurred.

Re: My Girlfriend Dissociated and Forgot Who I Was

#18

Wow, such an amazing read! > A few hours after she first told me, I took some time to read up on dissociative identity disorder. Shouldn't he have read up on DID in detail when she first told him about rather than when the episode happened? Seeing this mid-way through the event makes it seem like he didn't really do his homework beforehand. > at its worst, she said, she would not only struggle to identify who she was…

I think he meant first told him, that Christmas morning. He's just using that as a lead-in to discussing some specifics of the illness at a later point in the story.

Re: My Girlfriend Dissociated and Forgot Who I Was

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Wow, such an amazing read! > A few hours after she first told me, I took some time to read up on dissociative identity disorder. Shouldn't he have read up on DID in detail when she first told him about rather than when the episode happened? Seeing this mid-way through the event makes it seem like he didn't really do his homework beforehand. > at its worst, she said, she would not only struggle to identify who she was…

Regarding your first point, judging from the "after she first told me" part, I think he did. Though i agree, it was weird to jump in time like that.

Re: My Girlfriend Dissociated and Forgot Who I Was

#20
This has happened to me with two different people. Both times my face apparently transformed into the face of the person's father - while we were sleeping together. Only one of the times was after the person smoked pot. It was scary to say the least, and scarier when the first one ran to the kitchen and grabbed a chef's knife.

Life lesson: before you get in a relationship, ask about any history of mental disorder or medications being taken. Some people don't tell you about these things until they happen.

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