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Re: Ask HN: Why keep living?

#61

"All human wisdom is contained in these two words: wait and hope." Sorry man, that's all I got.

Thanks for trying :)

>>>I won't go into the details that led up to this eventFix the problem and then go ahead and do whatever you want. Atleast you would be helping one other person. One you have crossed the line, there are no rules,nothing to stop you. Problems are created by people or a group of people. Fix the problem and you will watch problems run to the hills. Yes you will have to pay a price for all this.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I5UBikauIQM

http://codepad.org/LMNJWE6X

They say "Life is suffering". You want to choose to the easy route or the hard way, i leave it upto you.

Read upon Irom Sharmila.If you can do that , you are beyond anything. Nothing can stop you.

Re: Ask HN: Why keep living?

#62
You mention a) return of depressive episodes, b) no funds.

For a):

There's a method that was developed recently by a couple of very qualified people, specifically to overcome the problem of the relapse of depression. It's based on the practice of "Mindful meditation" and the book (with CD) is called "The Mindful Way Through Depression". The program lasts 8 weeks. You'll do exercises everyday and you'll learn the tool(s) to stop any relapse right when it threatens to take over your life again. And there's scientific proof that this program actually really does re-wire your brain: news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2011/01/eight-weeks-to-a-better-brain/

For b):

Here are the gems:

The audio files you'll need to do the exercises: https://thepiratebay.se/torrent/4180277/Mindful_Way_Through_...

The book (pdf) you'll need to read: http://www.torrentz.com/3935b3cbcfc33c14d45fa8eefada3210347b...

Re: Ask HN: Why keep living?

#63
Why keep living?

Because life is the master of all games, it's incredibly hard, but as long as you don't physically die there is always a new life waiting for you to start once you push that reset button.

There is nothing that compares to it, no other game is as rich, as deep and complex with endless opportunities for improvisation.

Have you ever played a game that you can't possibly win, but you kept trying, fighting, again and again, with a grin on your face because it was so epic? This is how life can be, once you let go of the fear of losing. No matter if everything is burning around you, if it keeps kicking you down, even adversity can become your power, your scream for meaningfulness in a mad mad world.

I had a really bad year in 2014. Anxiety attacks, dark thoughts, I know what you are going through. Meditation is what got me through. If you can't afford therapy you should really try.

Before you reject it of hand, I don't mean you should start believing crazy things about chakras and other stuff if that is not part of your culture. It doesn't matter if you are an atheist, a christian or a muslim, or whatever else, meditation itself is a scientific tool, it's how you become a researcher of your own mind. Just sit down, and for 20 minutes try to stick with your breathing. If you can, try to think about any people or things in your life that you are grateful for. That really does wonders.

I've found a lot of wisdom in Michael Carroll's books, that explain how to become fearless, using Buddhist teachings but without having to accept Buddhist dogmas. You can find them: http://www.amazon.com/Awake-Work-Practical-Principles-Discov... http://www.amazon.com/Fearless-Work-Confidence-Resilience-Cr...

Lastly, I've experienced a similar relapse after I was doing quite well for some time. Maybe what you are feeling now is the last fortress of darkness before everything becomes better again. Keep helping people, you will push through for sure.

Hope this helps

Re: Ask HN: Why keep living?

#65
Well, there seems to be no ultimate purpose. Life will take whatever purpose you want to give it. No purpose, if it gives you happiness, is a less perfect purpose. It could be a simple or complex reason, but its aptness will only depend on its ability to motivate you / make you happy and nothing else. We are but a speck of dust in the unraveling of the universe, and there is no less or more important purpose if we consider the scale at which we exist. We all have risen from this earth, and to it we shall return in time. But for the time we are here, let's not squander away our precious time. Let's do something to make it count for ourselves.

Re: Ask HN: Why keep living?

#66
You seem like a smart fellow. Problem with emotions is that sometimes they doesn't seem so rational - its hard to figure out whats going on with us.

I would strongly suggest you lean on someone (friends, family, professional, a suport group) until you can figure out a plan to escape.

To answer your question, my reasons for living is finding happiness from inside - I try to learn how to be happy when either it's raining or sunny, rich or poor, single or married - etc.

If you (or anyone!) wants to have a chat my email is my profile.

Re: Ask HN: Why keep living?

#67
> I had all of my dreams in life shattered and then I dealt with the Department of Justice for a year. The long-term stress robbed me of any self-confidence.

Perhaps a slightly different perspective than the prevailing "get talked at, take drugs, feel 'normal'" advice here: stay weird, stay upset. The key is turning despair into anger and anger into calm motivation. As with small gestures, there is happiness to be found in doing right by others. Those who experience and recognise the evils of their inherited society (including the corrupt, self-serving legal system) are uniquely suited to motivate change to said system that will help countless others. If running errands feels good, I imagine that exerting tears, sweat, and blood towards reforming an overbearing, abusive legal system will feel even better. Stay weird, stay motivated, and realise that in appreciating how awful things can get for one person, you might be able to act and prevent many future persons from experiencing a like fate.

Write letters, write pamphlets, attend town hall meetings, vote, support non-corrupt officials, devote time and money to defend the truly innocent. No matter what, find a way to turn the emotion of your unique history of experience into a unique motivation to fix the things wrong with the world that put us where we are today. That drive, that knowledge of what is yet to be done to do right by the honest individual: that is what keeps saints, warriors, explorers, and geniuses from giving in to the daemons that plague all brilliant minds.

Re: Ask HN: Why keep living?

#68
The first step out of depression is finding someone to trust. Find a therapist or a friend. You can determine if a person is trustworthy by how they respond to your feelings. Do they honor and affirm how you are feeling. Do not carry this alone, its too much.
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