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Re: Applying an experimental procedure to fall in love

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I harvested the questions out of the PDF. https://gist.github.com/shmup/3bc1229f24486d746bf3

Thanks for this! I built an app today and used this :)

Basically a responsive / bootstrap carousel with the questions and a timer at the end for the eye gazing.

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=8869305

Re: Applying an experimental procedure to fall in love

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I remember reading about positive conceptualisation techniques in Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. This is nothing particularly special. What if you spent 90 minutes detailing one another's flaws? You'd come away with a similarly inaccurate negative impression of your partner.

Re: Applying an experimental procedure to fall in love

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I thought this was great and recommend the article. Click through to the list of questions - http://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/no-37-big-wedding-... There's no harm in trying it. At worst you'll get to know someone. I'd have no qualms working through this set with at least a dozen people I can think of off-hand (some of whom aren't available anyway, it doesn't matter, or where we flirt anyway.) The questions…

I'm pretty sure it would form a "brotherly" love, that sort of relationship that was platonic but intimate was very common between men in throughout history.

Re: Applying an experimental procedure to fall in love

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I thought this was great and recommend the article. Click through to the list of questions - http://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/no-37-big-wedding-... There's no harm in trying it. At worst you'll get to know someone. I'd have no qualms working through this set with at least a dozen people I can think of off-hand (some of whom aren't available anyway, it doesn't matter, or where we flirt anyway.) The questions…

I would definitely save my computer. But I don't think it should be embarrassing. You already saved loved ones and pets, next your value may be your thoughts (saved in documents), work (value to the world), etc. There is a lot of good reasons to save that. That is what the why is for, to add the actual personal reasons behind it. Which is the important part of the question.

Not having proper backups for that important stuff should be a little embarrassing :)

Re: Applying an experimental procedure to fall in love

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We did this in the Stanford salon: the procedure was for interpersonal intimacy, so some parts you can pluck out and try for friendships: we matched people pretty randomly-ish, and it was a fairly good result. This is the experimental protocol (https://www.ocf.berkeley.edu/~rascl/tools/secondFastFriendsQ...)

There seems to be a positive feedback sort of thing in this, because the pair who got the most out of it was two people who had been friends for a long time, who learned a lot about each other.

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