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A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Ah man. Once I logged into YC and saw the black banner, I thought another CS idol I never knew had passed away, but to find out it was one of our very own was terribly shocking.

My friendship, if you can even call it that, with Dan wasn't as nearly as tight as others here, but when I decided to finally take an idea of mine seriously into startup territory, I came to Dan for a lot of advice. I was kinda new to the whole thing, and even with such a newbie, Dan always took the time to answer every question, explain every concept, letting me know about problems I will come across, and how to deal with them. It always shocked me how much time he took to help me out. I had only met him through the #startups channel, so we were virtual strangers.

From my minimal interactions with Dan, he seemed like a genuine dude. The phrase 'a real stand up guy' comes to mind as well. He just gave off that vibe and it seems that tons of others here picked up on that vibe as well. The best thing to do is to take a page out of Dan's book in how to treat others, and be selfless, and spread that. I know I'll try.

We didn't know each other too well, Dan, but cheers to you, man. And my prayers go out to your friends, family, and Tom.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

#142

I first met Dan at the little breakfast YC held for our newly-admitted class, right after interviews in May of 2008. I was so impressed with the strength of Dan's ideas, his natural charisma, and how much of a hustler he was. I still tell friends the stories I heard from him that day about how he worked the system in ways that I don't think even Dan would feel comfortable with me saying here. Dan worked all the angle…

I wish I'd known him.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

#143
I spent most of yesterday reading this comment thread and other things about Dan. I only knew him the way one feels close to someone that one admires in a community like this. So I can't imagine what those of you who knew and loved Dan must be going through. My thoughts are with you.

It's striking how many of you tell the same story about Dan's generosity. He seems to have taken time to help and support everyone who came to him: meeting with them, encouraging them, staying in touch with them, cooking them breakfast... People like that are precious.

The combination of talent, mischievousness, and heart that everybody is describing is very compelling. Makes me think I would have liked him a lot.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

#144

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You keep it hidden because for every 1 person who takes your advice and helps you out there are 5 who will write you off as a serious person for the rest of your life. Edit: I'm not saying this is right/wrong, but there are real consequences to outing oneself as a depressive.

What? "You keep it hidden because for every 1 person who takes your advice and helps you out there are 5 who will write you off as a serious person for the rest of your life. Edit: I'm not saying this is right/wrong, but there are real consequences to outing oneself as a depressive." What are the consequences? After dealing with OCD and social anxiety issues from 18 to 28, I finally started to open up and talk about…

I'm doing the startup thing, but didn't really think about medical insurance too much. It turns out I'm uninsurable. That is a real and serious consequence of accepting (professional) help.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

#145
Startups are intense evironments where tempers flare and principled differences of opinion lay, ready to be kicked up, like sleeping dragons on the floor. This being the case, I really feel for his co-founder. I can't imagine that there aren't words he wished he could take back or signs he thinks he should have seen.

I urge you not to blame yourself for any harsh words or deeds you may have let loose in the life of your company. Bruised egos in startups are like bruised thighs in pro football. They're just part of the game. So go easy on yourself. The rules of personal interaction in startups are different.

Furthermore, you can't make sense of suicide. It's an act that by definition doesn't make sense. I don't know you but I'm really sorry for you. I wish you and your company the best.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

#146
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In the greater context of start-ups and the pressures associated with that, it's not just 'young kids dying', it is 'young kids working on start-ups dying'. I realize that some people are of a mindset where 'failure is not an option', and this in and of itself brings some risks with it. No clue what the factors are in this particular case beyond what's in this thread but I've seen people literally break because of th…

I'm not sure it's fair to point to a trend from a sample set of one. The other guy was killed in a car crash; it'd be pretty hard to peg that to being part of a startup.

Uh, ever notice how interested HN people are in articles about depression?

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

#147
post #146
post #62

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I'm not sure it's fair to point to a trend from a sample set of one. The other guy was killed in a car crash; it'd be pretty hard to peg that to being part of a startup.

Uh, ever notice how interested HN people are in articles about depression?

Ever notice how all people and certainly all internet communities are fascinated by depression?

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

#148
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I apologize in advance if this question is intrusive but is there any possibility it could have been an accident? Sometimes the line can be blurry. Accidental suicides do happen. Especially since there was no note.

Unfortunately, the way I found him pretty much rules that out. I'm foregoing description to be kind to family and friends, but it wasn't something you accidently do. A couple minor things he did directly beforehand which would seem completely innocuous to everybody but me also gives me confidence in the conclusion.

That sounds pretty traumatic and I am incredibly impressed that you have the wherewithal to handle the community relations part after that.

That said it is probably a good idea to really get to the bottom of your feelings about it once you get a little breathing room. I mean don't try to 'just push through' and bury yourself in work in order to suppress grief.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

#149
I'm amazed to see how just how many in the community had a personal interaction with Dan. I doubt that anyone else here has reached out to so many different people.

Dan friended me on Facebook one day. I later saw him comment in a thread about the lack of profile pictures here, saying that if you wanted to see what a poster here looked like, you could just add them on Facebook. Later, I had the privilege of learning the secrets of "ticket hustling" directly from Dan.

The world misses you, Dan.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

#150
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Tom here. I am exhausted so pardon the informality and lack of feeling. Questions, etc. please contact me. Paul has a note that he's going to be posting on the YC blog at some point; try to keep discussion to one post, for my sanity. I will be keeping an eye on stuff and answering questions where possible. tom@ts also gtalk

Wow, sorry to hear. Can't really think of what to say.
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