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A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Post by arijo »

someonesad wrote: post #102

You know.... I am crying now. Death seems to glaze at me every time I start wasting my life again. I know that this is stupid, but I just can't help it. I am terribly sorry. Really. The funny thing is that I don't even know this guy - but I really like him. Nietzsche said that suicide thoughts are a wonderful comfort - they help us get through a lot of bad nights... and you know, today - right now, actually - it feel…

Hold on there. The world is not perfect and that is exactly the reason why we need people like you, who understand what it means to pass through hardship, to fight back for justice and for human dignity. Hardship will end and your experience will allow you to help other people to also fight back for their humanity. "What does not kill me, makes me stronger." - Nietzsche.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Post by davi »

estone wrote: post #88
tdavis wrote: post #51

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Unfortunately, the way I found him pretty much rules that out. I'm foregoing description to be kind to family and friends, but it wasn't something you accidently do. A couple minor things he did directly beforehand which would seem completely innocuous to everybody but me also gives me confidence in the conclusion.

A few years ago a very close friend of mine killed himself. Reading this today has brought up a lot of old feelings, and one new one; I feel like I really need to reach out and tell you that what you're going through and what you're about to go through will be very difficult, but you will come out the other side. Suicide is one of those things that I don't think we can ever reconcile in our minds. I've never resolved…

Suicide is one of those things that I don't think we can ever reconcile in our minds. ... You do learn to find a quiet place for the feelings

I second this. A close friend killed herself 15 years ago, and I still think of her, probably at least once a month, and mourn her, and wonder what her life would be like if she were still alive. But that remembrance comes from a quiet place, certainly much quieter than in the months surrounding the event. It doesn't stop, but it does change.

My condolences to all affected by this loss.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Post by JshWright »

bprater wrote: post #26
tdavis wrote: post #11

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Suicide.

Depression is an incredibly insidious disease folks, especially because sufferers normally keep it hidden from others. Some days you can feel completely fine, have amazing connections with people, love your work, be a completely present and loving parent and spouse. And on really bad days, it feels like the sky has completely collapsed on you and that the only logical thing to do is make the world a better place by l…

A "Dan" in my life took this path a little over a year ago... She was a an extremely well respected physician, teacher, and friend.

Tom, I wish I could tell you the answers will come with time, but if your experience is anything like mine... Well, I'm still waiting...

My sincerest condolences to Dan's friends and family, you'll certainly be in my thoughts and prayers.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Post by nopassrecover »

I'm just barely part of this community and even I recognised the HN name "fallentimes" and the quality of his posts (I now get why PG asks for HN names). I'll miss just these little comments. I truly cannot begin to comprehend how those who knew Dan more must miss him. My thoughts go out to those who knew him.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Post by asif »

I'm at a loss for words. Thinking back about Dan and the three months we spent together in YC, there were so many things this guy did right. Both as an entrepreneur and a human being, he was a role model for me. The world is truly a poorer place without him.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Post by swombat »

This 100+ comments thread filled with anecdotes of ways that fallentimes helped this or that person or was remarkable in this or that way, says more plainly and eloquently than any single post, that this is a tragic loss not only on an individual level, but also for the community.

I spoke to Dan numerous times on #startups. I am shocked and saddened to hear this news. My deepest condolences to Tom and to Dan's family and friends.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Post by bitdiddle »

pg wrote: post #36
tdavis wrote: post #12

Tom here. I am exhausted so pardon the informality and lack of feeling. Questions, etc. please contact me. Paul has a note that he's going to be posting on the YC blog at some point; try to keep discussion to one post, for my sanity. I will be keeping an eye on stuff and answering questions where possible. tom@ts also gtalk

http://ycombinator.com/dan.html

My sincerest condolences to friends, family, and all those that knew this young man. Both as a programmer and a father I find this heart breaking.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Post by araneae »

ryanspahn wrote: post #101
brandnewlow wrote: post #30

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You keep it hidden because for every 1 person who takes your advice and helps you out there are 5 who will write you off as a serious person for the rest of your life. Edit: I'm not saying this is right/wrong, but there are real consequences to outing oneself as a depressive.

What? "You keep it hidden because for every 1 person who takes your advice and helps you out there are 5 who will write you off as a serious person for the rest of your life. Edit: I'm not saying this is right/wrong, but there are real consequences to outing oneself as a depressive." What are the consequences? After dealing with OCD and social anxiety issues from 18 to 28, I finally started to open up and talk about…

I have a friend in the Navy. He has some problems, but he can't see anyone about it because if he does, he's taken off of active duty. Essentially, he loses his job.

Also, I have been asked on several applications for various things whether I've ever seen a mental health professional. One can lie, but...

And of course, there's a number of people whose real problem isn't depression, but wanting attention. The real depressives I know are the people least likely to seek help.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Post by fuelfive »

I first met Dan at the little breakfast YC held for our newly-admitted class, right after interviews in May of 2008. I was so impressed with the strength of Dan's ideas, his natural charisma, and how much of a hustler he was. I still tell friends the stories I heard from him that day about how he worked the system in ways that I don't think even Dan would feel comfortable with me saying here. Dan worked all the angles, especially the ones that you and I would never even consider. He took crazy risks, often came out on top, and had a shit-eating grin the whole way. Dan was awesome. Throughout the summer, Dan and I would talk regularly about our companies, strategies, and how it was going. He had the rare mix of smart, incisive questions, and an easygoing manner that made everyone relax and smile. Jessica would always scold Dan and Tom for drinking too much beer in front of the speakers, and Dan would always charm his way out. Everyone was in stitches for his demo day presentations too. I remember hearing PG brag about feeling like he could just leave the TicketStumblers alone and they'd come up with something awesome without his help.

Dan was an amazing guy, and I only saw a tiny fraction of his light. The world needs more Dans.

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