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Re: When a co-founder dies

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Post by edw519 »

I am so sorry to hear about this. My condolences.

I went through the same thing. My co-founder was also in the "I'll give you a kidney" category. OP is right; something like this really puts things into perspective.

In my case, I decided not to continue for 2 reasons. First, there was too much work for one person (there was too much work for 2 people). But more importantly, I just didn't care anymore. I ended up taking a job and it was a quite a while before the passion returned.

Respect to OP for making the decision to continue. Greg is with you, even if in spirit only. Please succeed for those of us who didn't.

Re: When a co-founder dies

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Post by mechanical_fish »

My condolences for your loss.

Talk to those who will listen: to friends, to family, to a counselor, to folks you meet at the electronics store. Do what you need to do for yourself, and give yourself time; don't be surprised if it takes longer than you think. Mourning cannot be pencilled into a time slot; it does not mesh with Google Calendar. Don't worry about startups and hacking if you find, at times, that the energy is not there; that energy will be back in its proper time.

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[Hackers: I see that mine is only the second comment. This is understandable, even laudable in many circumstances: The convention on HN is to speak only if you have something original to add.

That convention has its limits. There is nothing original to say when a friend or colleague dies; nearly every writer in human history has had their shot at the topic, as will most of us in our turn. But speak anyway. Use the standard words. What's important in mourning is the act of speaking, not what you say.]

Re: When a co-founder dies

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Post by scott_s »

mechanical_fish wrote: post #3

My condolences for your loss. Talk to those who will listen: to friends, to family, to a counselor, to folks you meet at the electronics store. Do what you need to do for yourself, and give yourself time; don't be surprised if it takes longer than you think. Mourning cannot be pencilled into a time slot; it does not mesh with Google Calendar. Don't worry about startups and hacking if you find, at times, that the ener…

The difficulty with conventional condolences is that they appear, to me, hollow when I type them, even when I mean them. Without the ability to use the sound of my voice or physical contact to convey sincerity, I'm at a loss.

With that said, I'm sorry.

Re: When a co-founder dies

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Post by n8agrin »

My condolences as well. Untimely death is an incredibly hard thing to cope with. Take the time you need and know that as you continue on your co-founder's spirit lives on both in your friendship and in your work.
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