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Late thirties here, and I've never drank, not once. Not for any religious reasons, but exactly what you said: I weighed the positives and negatives as a teen, and decided I'd have more fun watching my friends get drunk and making sure they got home okay, than ending up in the same mess as them.
I respect that decision, but it is a bit of a false dichotomy. You can responsibly drink w/o becoming "a mess". Granted, that probably works better as an adult than as a teenager. Personally, I follow the 'everything in moderation, even moderation' approach.
Poll: Are you a drinker or a teetotaler?
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#82I have been a regular drinker for most of my adult life. Recently, I tried a "semi-dry July", where I told myself I would drink only once a week (with no limit on that day, i.e. binge drinking allowed). But when I got to that day, I felt only like having one beer or so, and same the following week. Well, here's an amazing thing, shocking and totally counterintuitive: I felt much better while doing this than I did for…
Re: Poll: Are you a drinker or a teetotaler?
#83I'm a teetotaler. At every social gathering - be it work or relatives - somebody asks me the inevitable question "but why?". I never have a good answer. I have no idea why I'm a teetotaler, I just am. I did try alcoholic drinks exactly 3 times in my life, and didn't like anything about them. I think drinkers - even the casual ones - hate teetotalers.
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I haven't asked my friends to do any of those for >5 years, but I'll still have five or six drinks several times a month. It's very possible to learn where your limits are, and use alcohol to enhance your socialising without having to hit the bad stuff you've described.
Some people really don't have that sort of self control after a little drink, so their only path to not being ill is to not have the first one. I've not been ill through drink since a certain point in my early 20s when I was not in a fit mental state for a while (unless you count the occasion when I stupidly went out for a couple on an empty stomach after giving blood that afternoon). My body gives me advanced warnin…
Even if everyone had the same level of self control, some people would still tend towards teetotal behaviour, others would develop alcohol addiction.
There was a study proving a link to one specific gene in mice a while back:
http://www.ncl.ac.uk/press.office/press.release/item/a-gene-...
Human responses are more complex, but there's enough research to suggest a strong genetic component in problem drinking.
Re: Poll: Are you a drinker or a teetotaler?
#87I have been a regular drinker for most of my adult life. Recently, I tried a "semi-dry July", where I told myself I would drink only once a week (with no limit on that day, i.e. binge drinking allowed). But when I got to that day, I felt only like having one beer or so, and same the following week. Well, here's an amazing thing, shocking and totally counterintuitive: I felt much better while doing this than I did for…
The following comment/observation could be about anything - not specific to drinking. You wrote "I was forced ... to resume drinking...". No you weren't. You chose to do so. You may feel that you were pressured by other people to drink but I would bet a huge amount that no one tied your hands and used force to feed you alcohol. If you ever need motivation to refuse to drink, re-read the rest of your post and you shou…
There's a time for everything. The key insight, to me, is to realise that I am way sharper on zero-alcohol, and that every time I make an exception it takes two and a half days to get back to normal.
Re: Poll: Are you a drinker or a teetotaler?
#88I have been a regular drinker for most of my adult life. Recently, I tried a "semi-dry July", where I told myself I would drink only once a week (with no limit on that day, i.e. binge drinking allowed). But when I got to that day, I felt only like having one beer or so, and same the following week. Well, here's an amazing thing, shocking and totally counterintuitive: I felt much better while doing this than I did for…
My old boss's brother liked to drink, and he always spent one month a year dry in order to prove he was still in control. But she said he always made it February, because it was the shortest month...
The problem with both these is obviously what happens if you find you're not in control. Would you really admit it?