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Re: Being a new dad while working at a startup

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Post by jipiboily » Fri, Jul 25, 2014, 6:07 PM UTC

guard-of-terra wrote: post #20

rayiner wrote: post #7

> We’re reading a bunch of stuff and like people say, “my baby is sleeping 10 hours a day, every night.” Nope, that’s really not the case for us. I’m expecting that Sara will sleep way better in the next three or four weeks. Like hoping to, at least. Hah! My daughter woke up every three hours for a bottle, like clockwork, until 7-8 months. She's 20 months now, and still won't sleep in her crib through the whole night…

"My daughter woke up every three hours for a bottle" I wonder if it's possible to automate night feeding of small children without waking anybody up. Sounds like a good idea for a startup.

Hard for breast feeding though hehe

Re: Being a new dad while working at a startup

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Post by [deleted] » Fri, Jul 25, 2014, 6:08 PM UTC

guard-of-terra wrote: post #17

I hate this children-centrific notion that modern world puts on us. Makes me be wary of having kids. When I was a kid of 10, my parents had to work a lot to provide for a family so naturally I came from school, ate some food and proceed tinkering with my PC, studyind and reading books. I would certainly not be happier having helicopter mom or dad around. I didn't have that much appetite for communication these days.…

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Re: Being a new dad while working at a startup

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Post by tdicola » Fri, Jul 25, 2014, 6:09 PM UTC

guard-of-terra wrote: post #17

I hate this children-centrific notion that modern world puts on us. Makes me be wary of having kids. When I was a kid of 10, my parents had to work a lot to provide for a family so naturally I came from school, ate some food and proceed tinkering with my PC, studyind and reading books. I would certainly not be happier having helicopter mom or dad around. I didn't have that much appetite for communication these days.…

There's quite a difference between a 10 week old child and a 10 year old child.

Re: Being a new dad while working at a startup

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Post by rayiner » Fri, Jul 25, 2014, 6:10 PM UTC

guard-of-terra wrote: post #20

rayiner wrote: post #7

> We’re reading a bunch of stuff and like people say, “my baby is sleeping 10 hours a day, every night.” Nope, that’s really not the case for us. I’m expecting that Sara will sleep way better in the next three or four weeks. Like hoping to, at least. Hah! My daughter woke up every three hours for a bottle, like clockwork, until 7-8 months. She's 20 months now, and still won't sleep in her crib through the whole night…

"My daughter woke up every three hours for a bottle" I wonder if it's possible to automate night feeding of small children without waking anybody up. Sounds like a good idea for a startup.

A dad feeding a baby at 3am running on a few hours of sleep is pretty close to a robot.

Re: Being a new dad while working at a startup

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Post by nkozyra » Fri, Jul 25, 2014, 6:12 PM UTC

delmarc wrote: post #3

I have 3 kids and about to have one more in a month... people in the tech world act like its so amazing and different... get over it... no matter if you work in retail or work in a shitty work/life balance startup, its the same thing... Just be thankful we make a bit more then most in the workforce...

I think there's a big difference. In the tech world, there's this expectation that sometimes you're going to pull all-nighters or work 14 hour days or do sprints or whatever.

If you're working at the mall selling clothing that's pretty unlikely. In my former life in publishing, that was pretty unusual.

It's a cultural thing and it's not strictly relegated to tech, but it's not universal. Plenty of people have reliable 9-5 jobs, Monday-Friday. That's a lot easier to reconcile with parenthood than when there's a huge release sprint and they expect you to work from 9 a.m. Friday to 9 a.m. Sunday or whatever.

Re: Being a new dad while working at a startup

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Post by gknoy » Fri, Jul 25, 2014, 6:13 PM UTC

jipiboily wrote: post #21

guard-of-terra wrote: post #20

Earlier quoted context omitted.

"My daughter woke up every three hours for a bottle" I wonder if it's possible to automate night feeding of small children without waking anybody up. Sounds like a good idea for a startup.

Hard for breast feeding though hehe

It's easier with breastfeeding. Co-sleeping lets mama and baby be already close, so mom can go back to sleep, as can baby. The down side is, unless your bed is really big, Dad likely is going to spend the next year+ on the futon. (I did it. It was a sacrifice we were willing to make for the baby, and wasn't that bad. It beats being woken up for nighttime feedings.)

Re: Being a new dad while working at a startup

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Post by guard-of-terra » Fri, Jul 25, 2014, 6:14 PM UTC

jipiboily wrote: post #21

guard-of-terra wrote: post #20

Earlier quoted context omitted.

"My daughter woke up every three hours for a bottle" I wonder if it's possible to automate night feeding of small children without waking anybody up. Sounds like a good idea for a startup.

Hard for breast feeding though hehe

Sounds like an artificial breast loaded with milk beforehand.

Re: Being a new dad while working at a startup

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Post by fistofjohnwayne » Fri, Jul 25, 2014, 6:16 PM UTC

guard-of-terra wrote: post #27

jipiboily wrote: post #21

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Hard for breast feeding though hehe

Sounds like an artificial breast loaded with milk beforehand.

This is a joke, right?

Re: Being a new dad while working at a startup

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Post by japhyr » Fri, Jul 25, 2014, 6:18 PM UTC

guard-of-terra wrote: post #20

rayiner wrote: post #7

> We’re reading a bunch of stuff and like people say, “my baby is sleeping 10 hours a day, every night.” Nope, that’s really not the case for us. I’m expecting that Sara will sleep way better in the next three or four weeks. Like hoping to, at least. Hah! My daughter woke up every three hours for a bottle, like clockwork, until 7-8 months. She's 20 months now, and still won't sleep in her crib through the whole night…

"My daughter woke up every three hours for a bottle" I wonder if it's possible to automate night feeding of small children without waking anybody up. Sounds like a good idea for a startup.

It's exhausting, but it's really not something you want to automate. Whether through breastfeeding or a bottle, those feedings are pretty important bonding time.

When my kid was in this stage I'd stumble in and give him a bottle, but I was always aware that I wouldn't be doing it forever, and someday soon I'd miss holding his little warm body against my chest every night in the darkness. I don't miss the exhaustion, but I do look back warmly on that middle-of-the-night time together.

Re: Being a new dad while working at a startup

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Post by jcromartie » Fri, Jul 25, 2014, 6:20 PM UTC

guard-of-terra wrote: post #20

rayiner wrote: post #7

> We’re reading a bunch of stuff and like people say, “my baby is sleeping 10 hours a day, every night.” Nope, that’s really not the case for us. I’m expecting that Sara will sleep way better in the next three or four weeks. Like hoping to, at least. Hah! My daughter woke up every three hours for a bottle, like clockwork, until 7-8 months. She's 20 months now, and still won't sleep in her crib through the whole night…

"My daughter woke up every three hours for a bottle" I wonder if it's possible to automate night feeding of small children without waking anybody up. Sounds like a good idea for a startup.

This is why some mothers sleep with their babies, so that they can feed them without moving or being too disturbed.