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Being a new dad while working at a startup

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Re: Being a new dad while working at a startup

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Post by delmarc »

jipiboily wrote: post #6
delmarc wrote: post #3

I have 3 kids and about to have one more in a month... people in the tech world act like its so amazing and different... get over it... no matter if you work in retail or work in a shitty work/life balance startup, its the same thing... Just be thankful we make a bit more then most in the workforce...

I agree it's not more amazing than someone working anywhere else, but startups are often seen as non-sense as you need to work 80 hours a week to get shit done, we were trying to break that a bit and just tell "hey, it's possible, it's not that hard actually!" :)

Correct the work/life is way offset but what about those people who need to work two jobs while their partner is also working...

Lets be realistic, its hard no matter what job you have... anything is possible... its the stigma that is attached to having kids in the tech industry that is the reason why people need to read posts like this...

Re: Being a new dad while working at a startup

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Post by delmarc »

jipiboily wrote: post #10
rayiner wrote: post #7

> We’re reading a bunch of stuff and like people say, “my baby is sleeping 10 hours a day, every night.” Nope, that’s really not the case for us. I’m expecting that Sara will sleep way better in the next three or four weeks. Like hoping to, at least. Hah! My daughter woke up every three hours for a bottle, like clockwork, until 7-8 months. She's 20 months now, and still won't sleep in her crib through the whole night…

It was every 1.5 - 2 hours for a while and it is still that often, sometimes she sleeps 4+ hours (she did that 3 or 4 times now)...kinda crazy. Good "luck"! Apparently the first 20 years are the worst...hehe ;)

Try 22 years... cause they will be our responsibility for all the years in college and who knows how long after

Re: Being a new dad while working at a startup

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Post by jipiboily »

delmarc wrote: post #11
jipiboily wrote: post #6

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I agree it's not more amazing than someone working anywhere else, but startups are often seen as non-sense as you need to work 80 hours a week to get shit done, we were trying to break that a bit and just tell "hey, it's possible, it's not that hard actually!" :)

Correct the work/life is way offset but what about those people who need to work two jobs while their partner is also working... Lets be realistic, its hard no matter what job you have... anything is possible... its the stigma that is attached to having kids in the tech industry that is the reason why people need to read posts like this...

I agree and not, it's easier for some people, and harder for other.

It is definitely harder for people with lower salaries who needs to have two jobs (I know some!).

It is also easier, at least here in Quebec, for people that works, as an example, for government. They have a lot of vacations, work less hours per week, flexible hours, sick days, etc.

I am glad I work @ Rainforest QA and to have so much flexibility, which makes it easier for me and my wife!

Re: Being a new dad while working at a startup

#15

Post by pyre »

delmarc wrote: post #13
jipiboily wrote: post #10

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It was every 1.5 - 2 hours for a while and it is still that often, sometimes she sleeps 4+ hours (she did that 3 or 4 times now)...kinda crazy. Good "luck"! Apparently the first 20 years are the worst...hehe ;)

Try 22 years... cause they will be our responsibility for all the years in college and who knows how long after

Well, in the later years at least the micro-management portion is over. If they are at university, and you still need to argue with them about using the washroom rather than dancing around the room... ;-P

Re: Being a new dad while working at a startup

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Post by jipiboily »

delmarc wrote: post #13
jipiboily wrote: post #10

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It was every 1.5 - 2 hours for a while and it is still that often, sometimes she sleeps 4+ hours (she did that 3 or 4 times now)...kinda crazy. Good "luck"! Apparently the first 20 years are the worst...hehe ;)

Try 22 years... cause they will be our responsibility for all the years in college and who knows how long after

Oh yeah, I live in Quebec, things are a bit different, we can drink at 18, school is much, much cheaper too

Re: Being a new dad while working at a startup

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Post by guard-of-terra »

I hate this children-centrific notion that modern world puts on us. Makes me be wary of having kids.

When I was a kid of 10, my parents had to work a lot to provide for a family so naturally I came from school, ate some food and proceed tinkering with my PC, studyind and reading books. I would certainly not be happier having helicopter mom or dad around. I didn't have that much appetite for communication these days.

So naturally I don't understand why everybody is expected to drive children around and watch them constantly.

Of course this doesn't apply to very small children who I'm in totall loss how to handle.

Re: Being a new dad while working at a startup

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Post by jipiboily »

guard-of-terra wrote: post #17

I hate this children-centrific notion that modern world puts on us. Makes me be wary of having kids. When I was a kid of 10, my parents had to work a lot to provide for a family so naturally I came from school, ate some food and proceed tinkering with my PC, studyind and reading books. I would certainly not be happier having helicopter mom or dad around. I didn't have that much appetite for communication these days.…

New bord are effectively different, and I had no idea either how to handle them until day 1 of Sara. I even never changed a diaper before that day!

Re: Being a new dad while working at a startup

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Post by guard-of-terra »

rayiner wrote: post #7

> We’re reading a bunch of stuff and like people say, “my baby is sleeping 10 hours a day, every night.” Nope, that’s really not the case for us. I’m expecting that Sara will sleep way better in the next three or four weeks. Like hoping to, at least. Hah! My daughter woke up every three hours for a bottle, like clockwork, until 7-8 months. She's 20 months now, and still won't sleep in her crib through the whole night…

"My daughter woke up every three hours for a bottle"

I wonder if it's possible to automate night feeding of small children without waking anybody up. Sounds like a good idea for a startup.

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