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Men lose their minds speaking to pretty women

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Re: Men lose their minds speaking to pretty women

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

It was this one actually. http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=799344 However, its only about birds... I'd forgotten that. Oh well, I still wonder if it happens to guys who are trying to show off their intelligence (probably a decent strategy in some limited circumstances).

The general impression I've gotten is they go for pure animal magnetism when looking for a good fuck, and sensitivity, intelligence etc. when looking for some chump to help raise their kids.

>chump

>their kids

You're apparently not going to be winning any parenting awards.

Re: Men lose their minds speaking to pretty women

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There is something in women which evolved for millions of years. Like many products of natural selection, it is highly complex. It works on many levels, some of which are banal, some of which are fascinating on the deepest intellectual and aesthetic levels.

It drives me crazy how many women hold themselves in low esteem. (I think it's worse in the US.) Even the plainest, most homely woman can light up given the right circumstance.

Re: Men lose their minds speaking to pretty women

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Being software engineers, I don't think we need to worry about pretty women in the workplace degrading our work performance. Hacker News itself is 94% male, according to the poll that was up a while ago. That's a ratio that goes unmatched at the nerdiest tech schools.

Yeah, but there are always those women who are "IT" hot. You know, the ones that wouldn't get a second glance out in the bars, but look pretty good in the workplace talking about hardware and whatnot.

Re: Men lose their minds speaking to pretty women

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One of my sister's friends, a short average looking bald gay man is constantly hit on by very attractive women (he lives and works in NYC). He says it might be due to the fact that he is totally non-plussed by beautiful women (since he has no sexual interest in them) There is always desensitization training. In one day, you could probably approach fifty attractive women and effectively tame your fear. I've never done…

My dad acted in the Theatre and so I had been doing Theatre tech since about 11 years old (and have many, many beautiful women as friends). With that experience in mind I can verify you sister's friend's claim.

When you come right down to it there are two things you have to realize about women.

1. As hard as it is for Men to comprehend the truth is attractiveness isn't that high on a woman's list. It's not that women don't like an attractive man it's just lower on the list. Here's an example I use to explain it to men. I, as someone who dated a lot of theatre women, like dating professional dancers (for reasons I won't be so crass as to spell out here). But I'll certainly be interested in a beautiful, smart, funny woman who isn't a dancer. Attractiveness to women is like being a dancer to me. It's a plus but not a deal breaker. Hence "average looking bald guy" isn't necessarily a deterrent.

2. Attracting women in general boils down to one simple concept: Stand out from the crowd in a good way. No women wants a guy that seems average to her. So when your sister's gay friend shows a lack of interest in a woman every other man drools over it makes that woman wonder why and gives the guy a sense of mystery to him. Hence he stands out in an appealing way which makes women want to take a shot with him and see why he's different.

Re: Men lose their minds speaking to pretty women

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post #33

Being software engineers, I don't think we need to worry about pretty women in the workplace degrading our work performance. Hacker News itself is 94% male, according to the poll that was up a while ago. That's a ratio that goes unmatched at the nerdiest tech schools.

Yeah, but there are always those women who are "IT" hot. You know, the ones that wouldn't get a second glance out in the bars, but look pretty good in the workplace talking about hardware and whatnot.

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Re: Men lose their minds speaking to pretty women

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post #33

Being software engineers, I don't think we need to worry about pretty women in the workplace degrading our work performance. Hacker News itself is 94% male, according to the poll that was up a while ago. That's a ratio that goes unmatched at the nerdiest tech schools.

Yeah, but there are always those women who are "IT" hot. You know, the ones that wouldn't get a second glance out in the bars, but look pretty good in the workplace talking about hardware and whatnot.

Ah, you're talking about the "geek goggles".

Of course there's always Leah Culver, who's just plain hot no matter how you slice it.

Re: Men lose their minds speaking to pretty women

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post #33

Being software engineers, I don't think we need to worry about pretty women in the workplace degrading our work performance. Hacker News itself is 94% male, according to the poll that was up a while ago. That's a ratio that goes unmatched at the nerdiest tech schools.

Yeah, but there are always those women who are "IT" hot. You know, the ones that wouldn't get a second glance out in the bars, but look pretty good in the workplace talking about hardware and whatnot.

And the men are also "IT" hot, so it evens out.

Re: Men lose their minds speaking to pretty women

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post #21

One of my sister's friends, a short average looking bald gay man is constantly hit on by very attractive women (he lives and works in NYC). He says it might be due to the fact that he is totally non-plussed by beautiful women (since he has no sexual interest in them) There is always desensitization training. In one day, you could probably approach fifty attractive women and effectively tame your fear. I've never done…

Act gay, get hot chicks. Got it.

Act gay... Get a boyfriend! Girls like gay guys as friends... silly.

Re: Men lose their minds speaking to pretty women

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post #21

One of my sister's friends, a short average looking bald gay man is constantly hit on by very attractive women (he lives and works in NYC). He says it might be due to the fact that he is totally non-plussed by beautiful women (since he has no sexual interest in them) There is always desensitization training. In one day, you could probably approach fifty attractive women and effectively tame your fear. I've never done…

Act gay, get hot chicks. Got it.

More generally: If you're laser-focused on having sex with someone, you can only be judged based on sexual desirability (modified by degree of apparent desperation).

If you can hold an actual conversation, then you can also be judged on personality, intelligence, humor, etc.

So if you want to 'fight outside your weight class', keep your tongue inside your mouth.

Re: Men lose their minds speaking to pretty women

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post #20

We need science to tell us this?

We do. Just because something that was found to be true sounds completely plausible a posteriori doesn't mean everything that sounds plausible a priori is true.

I remember Al Gore quoting Mark Twain in an Inconvenient Truth: "It's not the things we don't know that gets us into trouble, it's the things we know for sure that just aint so."

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