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But that's how smears work. The whole point is to cause deep consternation, because dangerous questions might reflect poorly upon the person that asks them. So, when confronted with a delicate social scenario that threatens our better intentions, an awkward silence is produced, and everyone's mind races at the grey areas, and 12 people will diverge in 12 directions, guided by assumptions based on personal experiences…
To imply that she accused Feynman of cruelty because she enjoyed getting spanked sexually and then 'changed her mind' is not "asking the dangerous questions"... it is just weird and uncalled for. You're not doing a hero's work, you're just being mildly chauvinistic, and on top of it all trivializing sexual abuse. Be critical of the basis of her claims all you like. I encourage scepticism. But learn from the others in…
Why encourage silence in the scenarios where it's safe to conjecture. They're both dead, and history is written. Recognize the lack of detail now, and where there's an opportunity for misdirection. When no one discusses the safe scenarios, we are less prepared for the hazardous ones.