Ask HN: Life advice for 40yo Web Dev, single, $500k savings

Today i read the thread by the 25 year old web dev with 25k savings (https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=8019558). And i thought: Damn! Im in exactly the same situation as this guy. Only that Im almost twice as old and that my savings are more then 10 times of his. I would love to hear the opinions of you guys about this situation. So I finally made an account here, so I can post my version.

Just as the other poster, Im in Europe, come from a webdev/entrepreneur background and made some money with my startup. I was pretty introverted and socialy awkward my whole life, but teached myself a lot about social dynamics lately. So finally, I have some success with girls :-) But I cannot find any buddies for my lifestyle (go out, meet girls, talk about business, travel..). Everybody I meet is employed, has a relationship, is too shy to try new stuff. And for some reason, I completely suck when it comes to friendship.

Anybody here who is/was in a similar situation?

The thing is: I find employment very boring. I could never sit on my ass and do stuff for a company. And I usualy dont click with people who are employed. I dont like all the stuff these people are into. I have absolutely no interest in talking about politics, sports, gossip, gardening, family and whatnot. Im interested in girls, startups, coding, philosophy...

I'm kinda in the same situation, only i'm starting a business, got 80-90 k. in the bank and i'm 27 yrs old, i did parties, but i don't want to commit myselve to a relationship - had a long term relationship... I want to travel (but that's hard when starting a business)... Never travelled a lot in my life.

I already have the property to live, but i need to demolish the old house first and then set a new one on top (then i'll have debts :) ).

Working on a full time job and i'm starting my business after my normal working hours (so it's kinda busy ).. I like working for myselve, because my current employer is old-skool.. Their money-making application is still written in VB6, that probably explains my point with old-skool :)

I speak 3 languages (someone asked you): Dutch, French and English. I also understand German (mostly)

I... don't have much of a saving. I save just enough to take a year off to learn Android and move toward that field hopefully soon.

During that year, I've worked my ass off with girls mostly doing pick up artist kind of deal. I have a few friends are really prominent in this circle.

Since my funding is drying up, I've given up on improving my pick up skill, I've attain a decent level right now, but for now I'm working my ass on studying android and getting a job in it.

I've never had a problem with friends even with my horrible introvertness. I had problems keeping them because of my lack of keeping in touch skills. It's getting better though.

I'm 28.

> But I cannot find any buddies for my lifestyle (go out, meet girls, talk about business, travel..).

You can't find buddies to fit all aspect of your life style. I find that you need friends that fit certain aspect so you have multiple group.

I have university and highschool friends to just hang out and just interpersonal talk and maybe programming. I have another set to just talk about programming.

I also have another social group of friends that I go out and do pick up with. In general these group of friends aren't wealthy, who am I to complain? Ha, but they're mostly broke with deadend job but they sacrifice wealth for chasing girls. Well at least that's just my observation, I tried to balance both but well it's a tough.

edit:

If you really need to find buddies to chase girls, you can try to find a pick up community.